Hi all,

We are making an exciting new TV format where we match people who are open minded and curious, for a fun blind date.

The tone of the format is free of judgement and a celebration of alternative hobbies, interests and everything in between.

We are looking for male wammers to chat to so please do get in touch if you are interested to find out more. Send me a message.

Due to covid, we are currently casting via Zoom. Thanks!

hey up for some info

Anyone got in touch, I asked for more info but got a repeat of this message and then nothing after I offered to talk.

It might be because I'm old and don't have a "dating show" personality... or maybe it's for questioning the "non-judgmental" part where they only want to talk to male sploshers on a blind date type show and that we all know that weird sells..?

Either way, anyone had any luck past "Hi, *cut paste info* bye"?

(At least if it's a scammer it makes a change from the 'steal 3 pics of a dating website and try to get customs' lot we had last year)

Oh, I can see it being legit, but I can also see it ending up with someone put on the show as a bit of a laughing stock. "Look at me I like to pour custard over my head" type thing...

I agree, It probably is legit as it's about time for more reality shows and it's been a few years since the great sex survey and world of weird. I'm all for getting all kinks into the public view to normalise them, I am just unsure how it can't be anything other than random woman turns up to a man's house to see a gunge tank *close up of shocked face* and off to the usual circus type show.

Honestly it's the "male wammers" part that tweaks me. It seems if men are made fun of it's fine, but if the woman is the strange one it won't sell as much/uncomfortable watching maybe?

Ironically I would have no problem being on the other end where I am the unsuspecting 'normal' person! The concept seems ok.

Either way, he hasn't been back in a while so guess it's pie in the sky at the moment (pun intended)

My advice to everyone reading this would be to avoid like the plague. Whilst I like to try and extend the benefit of the doubt as much as I can in most situations the bit of investigation I've done on this leads me to suspect the suspicions already posted by others are well founded.

A quick Google Search for TV Casting UK led me to finding the following Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/tvcastingUK1 of which they had posted on the 25th of August 2020 one of the following promo images (attached below) that seemed of a similar theme to this post. As such I investigated the MonkeyKingdom.com domain that the email on that promo used. Whilst they have a particularly large portfolio of programmes they're working on of those that seem current the one that seems closest to what this post seems to be about is this program: Dating No Filter - https://www.monkeykingdom.com/show/dating-no-filter/ .

Full Synopsis: Dating No Filter is a new comedy series in which real first dates are watched by comedians. Each episode, four pairs of comedians will be providing hilarious commentary as they witness whether two real dates end in disaster or if (hopefully) true love blossoms. Some of the comedians will help match make the dates in the hope of helping singletons find love. The comedy pairings will then get to watch the date unfold in front of their very eyes all from the comfort of their sofas.

I would bet my right testicle that this is the show they're looking to get people for and they're just looking for a sucker to be the butt of a whole bunch of punchlines.

No matter how desperate anyone here may be remember that this is a light entertainment show and as such they are after maximum entertainment value such that they have much more incentive to match you with someone to ensure maximum slow motion car crash re-watch value than they do with actually making a legitimate effort to find a match. My suspicion is they have a woman with OCD that panics at any disorganisation to try match with you with "hilarious consequences."

Even if by some miracle it proves to be a different show (in which case I'll be a bollock lighter) I personally fail to see how the format is not already set up in a way for participants to fail.

First of all sploshing isn't just an "alternative hobby," it is a recognised kink/fetish and that makes a big difference. My personal "alternative hobby" is playing mini/crazy golf, I'd have no issue taking a date to play mini/crazy golf (though I probably would take them to a different course as the difficulty of some championship style courses can break newbies mentally) as whilst it is something I enjoy that they might do to there isn't anything kinky about it.

However getting someone else to participate in a sploshing session under false pretences where you're not up front about finding it kinky is nothing short of being creepy. And at what point in this blind date is the sploshing meant to come up?

In my personal experience if you want to increase your chances of introducing someone successfully to sploshing/WAM it is best to get an idea of what their existing kinks and fantasies are already as you can try and find an aspect of sploshing/WAM with similar themes.
For instance based on their existing kinks the following may be best to explore:
Those who enjoy the instinctual behaviour of primal play might be best introduced to mud wrestling;
Those that like the helplessness/vulnerability of bondage may appreciate being locked in a gunge tank/being sat above a dunk tank;
Others that like the playful anarchism of brats may appreciate the slapstick humour of a tit-for-tat pie/food fight
Anyone that enjoys erotic humiliation may prefer a savory food scene.
Etc etc (people get the idea without me having to list all possible recommendations for each theme, kink or fantasy).

But anyway even with all that in mind at what point during the period of a single blind date in which you are meant to build up enough chemistry and attraction that the discussion of kinky matters isn't automatically creepy (and to be fair many will find it creepy talking about kinky matters on a first date anyway) to get to a point in which your date is comfortable enough to divulge their fantasies and kinks to a relative stranger with cameras up in their face so as to calibrate a good introduction.

Not very likely, a good outcome for whatever poor sap signs up for this would depend on some really unlikely odds.

In the end I kind of think this is a little disappointing really. Many of us here would jump at the chance to help out a TV show that wanted to do an honest exploration of Sploshing and WAM as it has helped many in the past to learn about it or find further acceptance from such features.

So if at some point you feel like doing a "Kinkify Your Lockdown" documentary for couples looking to spice up their lockdown love lives I would gladly consult with you, appear on camera either as myself or my femme alter-ego Elise Wood that I did WAM videos as. Just as I'm sure many more people here better qualified to represent the community than I would being willing to consult or feature in such an endeavour.

But whilst the intent is to mock and omit as many details as has been omitted here I think it's going to be a hard pass from most people here. There is no benefit to either the individual or the community as a whole.

That is interesting as the guy claimed to be from MGM, gave links and everything. This explains why I couldn't find any reference to the programme. You would think he would know his own production company! More fuel to the fire.

If that is the show then all they are doing is a pure judgment based show. I.e. another lie which could be be horrible (even traumatic) for the 'contestants' all in the name of entertainment! That said, they can't do sexual stuff without letting them know it's a kink at first, that is borderline sexual assault by peer pressure if they make you do something they don't want to do! The email did say "open minded folks" but they still have to know a bit!

I did the Great British Sex survey programme for C4 (SwanTV), they were great, professional and lovely chaps. The TV show was ok (even though sploshing was a side bit) but they left a good amount in. I can't have my face on TV though due to having a client facing role (would you want to recognise your therapist from their kink on TV)?

Man, I love mini golf! I was so excited when I heard there was a league/events thing!

Hmm so the only connection I could find between MGM and Monkey Kingdom that make the Dating Show I found is that in 2005 Comcast bought a 20% share in MGM Holdings (I'm kinda unclear if they still own this stake) and that Monkey Kingdom is owned by NBC Universal which itself is owned by Comcast. That being said how much the average employee in each subsidiary knows about other companies held by the parent company will vary considerably. I know that when I worked for three years as a graphics designer for the UK subsidiary of a larger US based news organisation that all I knew/heard anything about during day to day work was the company I worked directly for and the company right at the very top of the pile (in the example above that'd be Comcast). The rest of the company structure we were pretty much oblivious to.

All that being said many of these production companies like to outsource casting to a specialist casting agency much the same way some companies turn to recruitment agencies to fill positions and it may just be the poor soul whose come posting here has just been given just the brief they've posted above with no other idea about the show itself and they're going to be paid based on how many people they can get turning up to a casting session meeting a set criteria.


Exactly. How can they consent without being informed? With the likes of BDSM you have checklists, limits, scene negotiations and safe words to ensure all parties are consenting. Just asking people are they open-minded doesn't then justify surprising them with a kinky experience. It has consent issues written all over it. That and context matters if you ask people in the context of 'hobbies' whether they are open minded they may more thinking along the lines of whether they're willing to have a go at bungee jumping rather than whether they want tying to a St Andrew's Cross.



Well I know I'm always in my own special little category of weird but to be honest I'd be more likely to open up with a therapist who'd been on TV about their kink (even if it wasn't a kink I shared) as I might expect them to be more likely to understand or relate on such issues (just from personal experience but just because someone is advertised as a "kink-aware" therapist it doesn't always mean they're kink or sex positive). The sex drive is a biological fact of adulthood such that whilst we all wish to be respected for who we are and what we do we're also sexual beings too. Personally a therapist who has their personal, professional, social and sexual lives in order is probably one with some bonza advice.

Yeah I used to play lots of it as a kid and then stopped for awhile but then got hooked on it when I played on a course locally that was styled on the main type of championship courses in Europe. Unfortunately little did I know back then these were slowly being replaced by the Adventure Golf style courses that tend to be more imaginative with the decorations around the course than with actual obstacles on the hole to navigate. Just now have my fingers crossed the pandemic won't finish off that local one Anyway I better shut my trap their as I could waffle on too much on something way off topic

Well he has not been back on and I've not seen him on Fetlife so guessing they either gave up, found someone or was a scammer.

As for therapy: I do other types than sexual and it's probably not worth it in the long run! I will also have to check in the BACP ethics. Openness is one thing but this could bias opinions and destroy any 'blank-slate' work. That said, times are a-changin' and a lot of what I was taught is no longer correct in contemporary therapy...also there is a place that offers sex therapy with sex as part of the process, so me getting gunged on TV is small beans compared to that.

(Side note, we are all in therapy as well to keep our ducks in a row...but we never give advice (bar duty of care) as our clients are different to us and our morals/upbringing...it's a good check to see if you have a 'real' counsellor or a just a life coach pretending above their pay-grade).

But yes, getting off topic! Hope the golf stays around!