I've been dating someone for about 10 months now and early on in our relationship I mentioned I was into this stuff and he seemed quite interested. It never really went anywhere until he brought it up to me a few weeks ago. He'd actually been looking online and showed me some messy photos he liked and ideas he thought would be sexy/fun. I'm very lucky that he's showing so much interest, but it kind of makes me a little shy and nervous for some reason.
I guess my question is, do you have any advice for a non wammers first time? I was thinking about keeping it simple with shaving cream and some ms gunge I just received from messy supplies. I'd love to hear any stories or advice you guys have to offer!
I was going to offer similar suggestions as mudguy405.
If you don't already know based on the pics he showed you, ask him what type of mess/gunge he is interested in. Does he like the idea of dessert items you can lick off each other, or is he a Nickelodeon kid from the 90s who always wanted to get green slimed, or does he want something quick and easy like a shaving cream fight that can be easily cleaned in the shower?
I would second the notion of starting slowly with chocolate syrup, aerosol whipped cream, pudding cups, etc. You can even have a couple of homemade pies too, whether official with crusts or just whipped cream and pudding on a paper plate.
You don't have to do everything on your first outing. If he's into it, you can make it bigger and messier the second time. Let us know how it goes! I am jealous that you have a bf willing to experiment with this fetish!
Different guys like gunge for different reasons too. Some like the way the mess feels on their skin and body, some like the humiliation, some want it as a punishment, or a range of other reasons. He may not be able to express what he likes about it, but the sooner you can get some hints about that, the more you can do to keep it on track as a horny experience for him.
Another thought is that he might just really be into you, and he knows you're really into this. So he's not that into it, but is willing to meet you half way and give you some of what turns you on, even though it's not doing much for him. Be aware of that possibility and don't push him too far if that's the case.
Do you have any white-ish natrosol? Can be super hot to any guy that is into cum. You could also just straight up ask him what kinds of things he'd like to try first and work from there.
When I think of first time gunge experiences, the main thing I'm concerned with is how fast the cleanup is after. If they perceive gunge to be complicated it can ruin any chances of ever doing it again lol.
I also tend to avoid anything with food because some guys are really turned off by the smell/taste of cloyingly sweet American food products lol (myself included).
I've had some luck in the past with non WAM guys getting into it by offering to be the one to get messy. They aren't usually as willing to be the ones messed up, but they're more than willing to shove a pie in my face to start. The other way I've tried with non wammers was through bets: play a round of Mario Kart where the loser gets pied or something like that. Regardless, good luck and hopefully you both have fun!
I agree with everything the other commenters have said. Also, don't be afraid of an awkward conversation about what he wants, or what his limits are - he might feel weird about saying it directly. Good luck!
Thanks guys for letting me your thoughts and offering advice! It was really helpful!
We ended up getting messy for the first time this weekend. Kept it pretty simple with singlet & pants filling, shaving cream pies to the face, and two big buckets of gunge. My boyfriend really enjoyed the whole experience and is already talking about what we can do next time! So over all it was a big success! Here's a few photos of the gunge finale, it felt amazing!
Nice job, and ditto the other comments: Congratulations!
I tried (gently) introducing wam to the last man I was dating. While he seemed to really enjoy the experience, it was only a matter of a few weeks, before he shared my interests with a common friend (of substantial prominence in the city, and also a past supervisor 0f mine).
Needless, to say, our dating relationship did not continue for long.
Luckily, I did not explain the full spectrum of the WAM fetishes. I believe my 'ex' failed to realize that WAM was not just a simple sexual kink, but (when shared within the context of an on-going relationship) a deeper level of our our intimacy: clearly a higher risk proposition.
Thank you for writing about it and putting it out there.
Love you, too
