For those of you who know me and those who know of me I have some news. For those who don't know me, I am a straight cross dresser who loves getting messy as you can see from my website.
In the early years I didn't cross dress and my wife joined in my messy exploits although more to please me I would guess. As her interest declined I started to cross dress as a way of getting a 'woman' messy. Gradually I grew to like the whole thing. To start with my wife didn't know but then she must have discovered something and confronted me. I could hardly deny it and we went through a bit of a testing time.
Now she knows what I get up to but doesn't really approve so I only play when she is out of the house (or I am!).
Anyway, the point of this post is that she asked me a bit about my liking for posting videos and what people thought of them. I had to admit to not really knowing as most people who leave comments on Youtube like my videos but I'm sure there are thousands who hate them. I jokingly said why not ask them yourself and she laughed. Over the next few weeks I brought the subject up again and she eventually agreed to letting me post an email address for her.
So, if you want to chat to a wife of a messy cross dresser you have my permission. However, she is notoriously slow at reading emails and I'm not really sure what she is prepared to talk about but the offer is there.
sue@wtanmse.co.uk

Thanks for your reply. I think my wife has reached her conclusions about me but it was more for people who want to see the other side of crossdressing I suppose. Anyway the offer is there.

I have a question for you do people enjoy it when you crossdress and get wet and messy? or is it a draw they really don't care one way or the other, I just wondering because I plan on cross dressing and get trash

I think you're asking the wrong person. You really need to ask other people whether they enjoy me getting messy! However, I have over a 1000 followers on Youtube so I hope some people enjoy what I do.
You have to ask yourself will you enjoy it and what are you doing it for. First and foremost you have to do it for yourself. I film and publish nearly everything I do because I enjoy it. It is a bonus if others enjoy it as well.
You go for it and let me know what you do. I would love to see it but understand not everyone is like me.

I plan on doing it next year in Jan. Iam doing it for my self what a mess I plan on making with a nother model if we becomr friends then I can tell you about it and you can see it Iam a straight Male

Hi Davina (i assume this is what you like to be called by?)

I read your post with great interest as i'm kinda on the same side of the fence as your wife, but i also agree with you...
There probably isn't a huge market for TV/CD males getting messy, but i assure you there is an interest from us gals! Maybe not as much as you guys but it does get me going when i see a guy loading a lacy pair of knickers with gunge.
For years i've been trying to get my male-friend to dress up in a sexy thong and bra for me to get him messy, but he just won't do it even in private. Me and CJ are very close and done lots of stuff together but i think this is a step too far for him.
But forget that, if you are comfortable and happy in a dress, short skirt, little crop-top, whatever takes your fancy, then you stick to it.
Your wife should be with you for a million other reasons besides what you choose to wear.
Not wanting to over-dramatise this but if you're being judged by what you look like on the outside (ie: female, not butch and manly) then we may as well go back to the days of slavery when everyone who wasn't "normal" was an outcast, which is just ridiculous.
Sorry but she should accept you for who/what you want to be, not who she wants you to be.

This reply is like the holy grail for any CD/TV who is into getting messy whilst dressed up, it can feel like we are like the lepers or outcasts of the WAM world at times.

As you say though, respect everyones decisions on what they want to or don't want to involve themselves with such as Davina and her Wife, and also with CJ not wanting to go down the CD route.

Although I'm more than willing to take his place instead

Hi, I've been getting messy on my own for a few years now. It's only recently I've started to cross dress and get messy. I'm lucky in the way I don't have a partner, so live on my own. As you can guess I get do this alone, until I found and escort who was willing to get me messy and get messy herself, but at a cost of course. However I'm enjoying the time we have at the moment.
It would be nice to chat to other cross dressers about getting messy and other like minded people. Drop me a line if your interested.

My desire to crossdress also manifested with my wife had less and less to do with my fetishes...