Does it matter who you get messy with? By that, I mean does the age, gender, size of a person matter to you when choosing someone to get messy with? e.g. IF you were a heterosexual male, would you insist on being gunged by a female or would you consider a session with another man? I'd imagine for most of you that it would matter because this is mostly a fetish site, but I'm curious to know everyone's thoughts on this.
Yes, it does to me. I am a heterosexual male so it has to be with a girl, one who I have to fancy and find attractive
I have only had three mess partners, one a girlfriend who I gently introduced into the world of WAM, the other two were girls from an escort agency, one was a regular girl I used to see quite often, one time I suggested a pie session, and she fancied it. After the first pie fight, she loved it and enthusiastically became a regular pie target. She told one of the other girls at the agency about our pie sessions and she asked to join in with us.
It was brilliant
All three pie stooges were very sexy girls, anyone other than young, attractive girls I wouldn't want to get messy with.
It's a fair question and I think you'll find the answers tie in very closely if WAM is a sexual kink / activity or not for that person. There are actually a number of people on here that like watching mess but have no desire to get messy themselves.
For me it's definitely a sexual kink. As I'm heterosexual my preference would to to have a sexy messy session with a partner. So, yes I guess age, size and other factors I would consider in a partner outside of WAM would also factor in. Probably someone around my age and not larger than me.
However, I could at least enjoy something coed like a food fight or something as a fun activity.
As a married heterosexual male, I am fortunate that my very lovely wife is also into wam. It would also be a thrill if the two of us wammed with a younger female (or two) but the sexual stuff will always only be between myself and my wife.
I have absolutely no interest in wamming with males or mixed company.
I think as with anything that is remotely of a sexual nature, it normally has to be someone that you are on the same wavelength as. That goes for whether you're doing it on a webcam or in real life. The guy you're doing it with can look like Ryan Gosling, but that doesn't help if he has the personality of fish. At the very least you need to be into the same things, I would argue, and for the same reason - is it for a laugh? For the humiliation? Because you like the feel of it?
As a heterosexual female, i would only ever get messy with a man, and usually its with a guy that i am attracted to, that i have built up a friendship with first .
Id never get messy with another woman or a couple, but age and size aren't important if we get along and like the same WAM things
It's been interesting reading everyone's thought on this. Personally, as a gay man, although I only do it for fun, I've only ever had messy sessions with other men. IT's just a personal preference. Some have been gay men, some straight or bi men. But they've never lead on to any sexual activities. I'm not saying I would ever rule out a session with a woman, but I don't know if it would feel the same. Anyway. That's my tuppence worth on the subject
Love you, too
