My dream is to meet a woman that REALLY is into WAM. Not someone that I need to introduce this amazing fetish to, but someone that loves to get messy as much as me! Am I being too optimistic here?

A lot of people coast through life not really knowing what they enjoy because they haven't tried much, that's especially true when it comes to sexual play and fetish.

Holding out for a woman who's at the same level as you and is open to sharing something with you is.. hopeful. Meeting a woman who doesn't yet know she loves it and is able to get to the same level as you over time and is open to being introduced to it by you is.. more realistic (and builds a stronger connection too!).