Anyone identify as on the Ace spectrum?

Yes.

Asexual (and agender)

Nice to meet another Ace.

May I contact you privately to ask how your identity and interest interact?

It may be a bit much to ask you to respond on a public post like this.

Go ahead, though I don't mind publicly answering.

What's both you experiences with Ace or a sexuality?
Or what's the story an how you both came to it?

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I'm not that in to nudity. I care more about the guy getting splattered well than what, if anything he's wearing.

I'd rather watch a guy get splattered than traditional porn.

Image having sex like getting food from a restaurant. I tried it, many times, and each time, I felt like I could have made this better at home.

Then, while doing some research on asexuality, I found out that it's a spectrum, which ranges from not that interested to a standing "No, thank you" to "Eww, gross". In that spectrum, there are people who think about sex in the 3rd person, and aren't interested in participating. They prefer to DIY.

That pretty much sums me up.

Ah, this is different to "Asexuality". It's true it is now a spectrum but mostly focuses on attraction styles and romantic feeling. It has nothing to do with Libido/sex.

I am Asexual, I don't care how hot someone is, it doesn't make me attracted to the person. There are other types (e.g. demi-, greyace, sapio etc).
Same goes for romantic relationships and love; some do, some don't and everywhere in between. Lots of fun name-tags there.

When it comes to sex itself, I enjoy sex but have a very low libido. Others have a high libido and some are 'sex-repulsed'. Just like any other sexuality. But Asexual does not cover how sex is perceived, that is a myth but often comes up in talks as it's assumed we are all anti-sex (That being said, the fluidity of words will probably mean in a few years this will be incorrect!)

So my question to you is: Are you attracted to humans sexually? Forget enjoying sex, do people turn you on? and if so, how?

I think we've messaged about this before, but yes - I'd have to say greysexual. I'm attracted to men but have zero interest in their genitals, and it's always been that way. I love kissing and sensual touch, and I can enjoy some forms of sex with the right person. Never had any interest in anal, and I find hookups/casual sex really hollow and distressing, even with someone I'm attracted to. To me it always has to be about meaningfully connecting to another person, not just sex as an erotic activity in and of itself. I don't watch porn, for the simple reason I'm not aroused by it at all, but love WAM videos, particularly if I really click with the model's personality.

I've been to a couple of asexual conventions and meetups and chatted to a lot of guys who identified as asexual. One thing I would say is that (unlike asexual women) in my experience almost every asexual guy has an underlying kink or paraphilia of some sort, and the reason they're asexual and not aroused by penetrative sex is that their fetish is their primary orientation. Some of them are chill with it and have reconciled being asexual and kinky, while others are ashamed/embarrassed about it and are kind of using the asexual label as something to hide behind because they're afraid of facing up to or living out their fetish. (It's easier publicly identifying as asexual to friends and family than it is admitting the only thing that turns you on is being trampled by a woman in stilettos, or watching a hot chick pop balloons, or jerking off to a girl wearing a plaster cast.) Because I'm quite forthcoming about being a wammer, I've often had asexual guys 'confess' their kink to me.

Yes.

I've thought I was just a late bloomer for a while, but I've ultimately accepted I'm ace. I also don't watch porn, and much prefer watching WAM content. Nudity doesn't matter to me either. In fact I find people better looking with their clothes on.
Even though I'm not sexually attracted to anybody, I still have aesthetic appreciation for both men and women. They're like sunsets to me... nice to look at but no urge to touch.

Overall, I like to do what feels good and I'm still open to some forms of sensual activity. For example, I would cuddle with someone if there's a connection. I do have a moderate libido, but it's not aimed at anyone in particular. It's more like an itch to scratch if anything.

As for WAM, I enjoy it as an observer and as a thrower. It ties right into my aesthetic attraction. To me, people just look good covered in pies and cakes... the more mess, the better. That's just how my mind is wired. It doesn't make want to do anything else physically with them though.

It's interesting agender was also brought up. I think I may be slightly on that spectrum. I don't mind being male, I just don't feel a strong attachment to it.