bertbertbert262:12/29/17
I think one of the unfortunate consequences of sexual topics being taboo is that many people do not have an established sense of etiquette. And, I think the anonymity and lack of visible interaction of an online forum doesn't help much.
In the past, I have been guilty of trying to sneak my fetishes & sexual proclivities into conversations with females. Now, I was much, much younger then and also very naive. But, I learned after several awkward interactions that that is not the best course of action when it comes to dealing with people. I'm not sure I would have learned that lesson by just lurking on an online fetish forum.
And, outside of the fetish community, I can remember observing other friends I had back in my school and college days. The social disasters of interactions with females were rampant. And, the level of daftness toward the stupidity of the behavior, even when brought up in later conversation, is astounding.
And, I think the "me too" movement online has merit. However, I doubt it will overcome that daftness and social ineptitude demonstrated by some.
To digress back to my original point, I really think that there needs to be more role modeling for young men, and probably young women, on managing one's self, drives, emotions, & behavior. Perhaps the conversation should focus on being at ease with others; as opposed to looking at others as an opportunity.
Anyway, those are my thoughts.