If you comment you run the risk of offending someone/people. If you don't comment, you still run the risk of offending someone/people. If you say your opinion, see above. If you have a brain that thinks, feels, see above.
You just can't win here. It's almost better to just post what you like then walk away. Don't read others opinions on what you like. Just feel comfortable in knowing what you like and if you share and others like or dislike it, what does it matter?
Truth is, we all look for constant approval in one way or another. We all hope that everyone likes what we like, post, share because it makes us feel better about it. But we are all fundamentally unique and not 2 people in the world will be identical in the things they like, love, dislike etc.
Seeking approval is not wrong or bad, but if you are seeking approval, you will also probably come across critisism. This can be given out constructively or in negative way. How the criticism is offered is often more telling of the person giving it. You don't have to take it on board, you don't have to do anything about it.
In an ideal world we would all like what we like and not give a damn what anyone else thinks. That s not likely to happen for a very long time. So I suggest in the mean time, just be kind to each other and to yourself.
It is a shame that Ant and his wife felt they had to leave, but we live and learn. They certainly were a positive in this community!
*sits thinking about whether to post this or delete as worried I may come under fire for what I said....
I'll get right to the point. Well this sucks. Messy Ant if your out there lurking under a different screen name, please come back. Your wife is very sexy and will be missed. There are a ton of great producers out there making great sexy content, but nothing beats an armature wammer.
Sorry to hear you are gone, your contributions were immense and I for one am extremely grateful for your smoking hot contributions, it is far easier to lurk or criticise.
mua said: Leila, while I definitely do not agree with your armchair psycho-analysis, you are definitely welcome to have your own opinions. However, there was no need for you to comment on this thread just to be mean. If you don't have anything nice to say, it is sometimes best to not say anything at all.
Please think about how you would feel if people make negative comments on your photos and consider deleting your comments on this thread.
Opinions are like assholes...we all have three.
Sorry I just had to say that since it's one of my favorite quotes from Amy Schumer.
FYI people do make negative comments on my photos and videos. This is the internet. People say what they think. I've never bitched about it or threw a fit over it because I value myself and don't care if random strangers don't find me hot/intelligent/interesting/whatever because everyone has their own preferences. I've seen a lot of women be very hurt when people either say mean things to them or God forbid say nothing at all. If you don't have realistic expectations and/or a feeling of self worth that isn't tied to other people's perception of you then you probably shouldn't post intimate content for for other people's approval. I'm not saying this to be mean. Lots of people post content of themselves online without thinking first if they can emotionally handle a possible negative response.
2nd post in 20 years but what the hell. I am with Leila. This forum runs rampant with white knights. No problem there, but it creates expectations.
When you post pics you cannot expect to please everyone -- or even a majority of folks. People here have real specific tastes. For example, I looked at the pics OP posted and decided not to view the vids. Why? I am a pie guy and the content didn't fit my bill. Sorry. That is the way it goes. I can't feel bad because my lack of interest pushed a poster away.
I have been here forever. I wish OP and his wife good luck and hope they decide to keep posting, but it is not our job to prop up every amateur who posts here. Just the way it is.
That message from MessyAnt did indeed contradict itself about six times .... but I don't read it as "BS," just as a not-fully-thought-out attempt to explain an emotional reaction. At any rate, it's more than they owed us.
People need to understand that true overnight sensations are few and far between. Even the Jessies and Riches and Ariels and the like had to develop a following when they started.
Here comes your insight of the week from noise...
Overnight successes take years to develop.
I don't actually think this was BS though I do take your point, seems like a premature emotional ejaculation though.
A few more videos released with a few weeks or so between them and she would have found herself worshipped as much as it looks like she wants to be.
I would take an educated guess though and say at some point it wouldn't have been enough as there is only so much worship available here at any given time and there is always a plateau.