This question is mainly aimed at those of us who are NOT trans or into dressing up in "opposite sex" clothes routinely, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested to hear that perspective - it's perhaps just a little more difficult for me to relate to personally.
I'm a straight guy with no intention to cross dress or have any move to alter my gender, but that doesn't stop me wondering what it must be like to be female, especially from a WAM fetish perspective. The bulk of content on here is women getting messy, and I think that's where it stems from - if I was female I could indulge my fetish and get paid to do it!
I love seeing a girl get messy but to me it's so much more about how it feels and the attitude and craziness that goes with Sploshing that I find attractive. I would love it if I could magically click my fingers and be a woman temporarily so that I could be that girl that just gets deluged with mess.
Curious thinking, or relatively common?! Anyone else ever have thoughts along these lines? (Maybe I just need more WAM with a partner....! )
Short answer. Hell yes I wish I could magically grow a penis at will, although I'm pretty sure my partner would not be pleased by that development. Long answer For me gender identity has lever been something set in stone. When you're born female and wear men's clothes no one notices although there have been times in my life where most people meeting me assumed I was male. Career wise I'd have been better off if I were a guy. In fact I think most things in life would have been easier as a male. WAM wise I think bisexual and gay guys have more options for getting messy with others than women do. Being female does not automatically mean you can get paid to get messy. After all there's as much messy stuff produced for gay males as heterosexual males. I think meeting up to get messy may have been more difficult being female. If you're messing with a hetro or bi guy with a wam fetish there's a certain level of expectation and a level of disappointment when you're not what they hoped for. When I used to attend splunches and was dating there were many male hetro wamers who were really looking forward to meeting me in the flesh. It was almost comical to watch the disappointment wash over them when we met. So many guys who'd sent messages declaring amorous intentions desperately trying to make it clear they weren't interested while forgetting that I'd given them no reason to believe I was. There's also the aspect of staying safe. Even meeting up with someone for a drink in a public place as friends can quickly turn into a situation where they're expecting more and you're looking for the exit. There's a certain feeling you get when you realise not only are they expecting more they think their entitled to more. I don't think it's any coincidence that my current and hopefully permanent partner is not a WAMer.
Interesting " I think meeting up to get messy may have been more difficult being female. If you're messing with a hetro or bi guy with a wam fetish there's a certain level of expectation and a level of disappointment when you're not what they hoped for."
No. Never. Well... ok.. maybe... a little. I imagine orgasms would simply be a warm wonderful sensation higher up in my crotch area, as opposed to down in my balls.
Other than that, I do pity females for not having a penis, just because a penis is a mighty useful tool for urinating. I am never not grateful & thankful for being able to pee standing up into a bottle and not getting urine on my clothes.
Things I'm curious about and would want to experience:
- What's it like to have something dangle between your legs? On the one hand, penises are fun to play with but it seems inconvenient a lot of the time when you have to pack it up in tight areas? Or rub against things? Having a vagina instead is super convenient sometimes!
- How great is it to pee standing up? Like, HOW GREAT? I can only imagine this is like close to the best thing ever but it's not something I can fully understand in my female body
- How awesome is it to go more than 25 days of a month without cramping, shoving something up your cooch (or wearing a diaper), ruining your favorite pair of panties because it came early, or wearing the ugliest underwear you own for a few days because...vaginas are icky.
- Being able to pick up heavy things and reach tall objects (I'm just 5'2"!)
- Hair everywhere? How do you stand it?
There's social aspects too I'm very curious about but the physical ones are the most easily answered!
Zoidbergs Evil Twin said: Other than that, I do pity females for not having a penis, just because a penis is a mighty useful tool for urinating. I am never not grateful & thankful for being able to pee standing up into a bottle and not getting urine on my clothes.
I'm all about seeing girls get their hair messy. I grew my hair out, and every once in a while I try my hand at getting messy. I enjoy it during the moment, there's no denying there's a thrill behind it and it excites me, but it's not as good as it could be to me because I'm a man. If I could be a woman, I'd probably get more enjoyment out of it. Being able to film myself getting messy and then being able to watch and enjoy it would be great, as opposed to filming myself currently and then watching it after I've messed myself and being like "Well...that did nothing for me..." and then deleting it.
This'll never happen though, so I just gotta rely on all the women out there who are so kind to star in videos for us.
- How great is it to pee standing up? Like, HOW GREAT? I can only imagine this is like close to the best thing ever but it's not something I can fully understand in my female body
ALL THE TIME! I am cis, which means that I always knew my gender and bio sex were the same. To me I am who I am and what's down there doesn't effect how I perceive who I am in my head.
HOWEVER! I wonder what it would be like to have a dick all the time. I do peg, and use a strap on for masturbation even sometimes.... but I just want to know what if feels like. How is it different. How do the orgasms feel when there is a much more physical representation of it happening. I want to shoot a load...
No. Never wondered; I love how my cock feels, and how pleasure feels to me in general, and how good pie and whipped cream and shaving cream feel on my cock. And, as was so eloquently mentioned in this thread, I love shooting a load.
No. I think I'm the outlier here, but I have no interest in seeing what life as the opposite sex would entail. I feel things are too heavily placed on genitalia which I'm sure would have no impact on my feeling. I'm just very comfortable with myself.
Chic_Mud said: No. I think I'm the outlier here, but I have no interest in seeing what life as the opposite sex would entail. .... I'm just very comfortable with myself.
Very interesting question and no, you are not alone. Before reading this question I don't recall having ever given much thought to it. I'm fairly certain that I would qualify as a sexist pig by today's standards and that may have something to do with it. I'm a white hetero WASP male of northern European descent from the USA. And from Tennessee on top of all that. I'm one of the traditional masters of the universe. I've probably spent more time wondering what it might be like to be my dog. Good question.
Chic_Mud said: No. I think I'm the outlier here, but I have no interest in seeing what life as the opposite sex would entail. .... I'm just very comfortable with myself.
Very interesting question and no, you are not alone. Before reading this question I don't recall having ever given much thought to it. I'm fairly certain that I would qualify as a sexist pig by today's standards and that may have something to do with it. I'm a white hetero WASP male of northern European descent from the USA. And from Tennessee on top of all that. I'm one of the traditional masters of the universe. I've probably spent more time wondering what it might be like to be my dog. Good question.
DuncanEdwards said: I'm fairly certain that I would qualify as a sexist pig by today's standards and that may have something to do with it. I'm a white hetero WASP male of northern European descent from the USA.
Being a cishet male from America has nothing to to with being sexist. Being sexist is entirely dependent on if you're a asshole for lack of a better word. For example, if you believe men and women can do mostly the same things you're what is known as normal; on the other hand, if you think women are too emotional and shouldn't do anything without male guidance than you're sexist.
No one judges if someone is sexist based on their race, beliefs, gender, sexuality, political opinions, etc. Being sexist just boils down to if you're a controlling asshole who is condescending to women or not, and if you are that way don't blame it on your heritage, blame it on yourself.
DuncanEdwards said: I'm fairly certain that I would qualify as a sexist pig by today's standards and that may have something to do with it. I'm a white hetero WASP male of northern European descent from the USA.
Being a cishet male from America has nothing to to with being sexist. Being sexist is entirely dependent on if you're a asshole for lack of a better word. For example, if you believe men and women can do mostly the same things you're what is known as normal; on the other hand, if you think women are too emotional and shouldn't do anything without male guidance than you're sexist.
No one judges if someone is sexist based on their race, beliefs, gender, sexuality, political opinions, etc. Being sexist just boils down to if you're a controlling asshole who is condescending to women or not, and if you are that way don't blame it on your heritage, blame it on yourself.
Hope this helps.
I agree but too much of the world seems to have a more challenging standard to meet. I'm not uncomfortable with accepting traditional roles and all kinds of prehistoric thought like that.The idea that I could be controlling with my wife of 31 years is kind of funny. Can't even get her to cooperate most of the time let alone tell her what to do. Point I was trying to make was that I've been raised to believe that I'm at the top of the pyramid so why would I want to consider anything else? Logically I know there's more to it than that but it might explain why being a woman never came up.
Dogs on the other hand are superior creatures who just don't care.
I do wonder what it's like to orgasam as women, I also wonder what sex messy or otherwise feels like as a female and last but not least I wish I knew what chocolate tastes like to a women lol seems like it can solve all problems rather quickly lol. As a straight man with no cross dressing or changing of genders I will continue to wonder.