Hi All,

For those who search the forums every Friday, you know that I am a huge fan of The Spokesperson's Friday Forfeits that get uploaded. I'm not into explicit stuff and deffo prefer clothed WAM sessions (especially clothes filling!).

I've been dropping the hint to my wife for an eternity that I'd like to give it a go like the husband & wife Friday forfeits sessions, saying that I think it would be fun! The last couple of Fridays, she's actually asked ME if their latest video has been uploaded, which I've been delighted by! So, I put it to her over the weekend again about maybe trying something similar for fun...and she said she's up for giving it a go. "Nothing weird though" is her request.

So, bearing in mind that she seems quite comfortable with what The Spokesperson is offering, what do you think I should do? In case she doesn't want to do it again, I'd like to make it a very memorable experience for us both (clothes filling, funny challenges and forfeits) and, while I'm very happy to experience the mess myself, I'm extremely keen for her to get the overall forfeit!!!

Answers on a postcard...

(I haven't shown her this site, because the x-rated stuff will definitely put her off)

I would say keep to sweet stuff, custard mainly. Syrup adds to the fun but can cause thrush in some folk if it gets in the vagina, so avoid pants-filling with it.

Play a game like scissors paper stone, or draw cards where red card = she gets it, black card = you get it. Take a couple of suites out of the pack if you don't want to end up having 25 gungings each. That adds a fun and anticipation vibe to it.

Outfits: Either go with stuff you're both comfortable with that will wash out easily, like tracksuits of gym gear, OR go charity shopping and buy each other's messing-up outfit - spend a day shopping then go for a romantic meal could be a good prequel day.

When doing the messings, small amounts first, then larger ones as the games progress. For someone who's never done it before, even half a can of custard in the pants or down the trousers will feel very strange, don't overwhelm with too much at first.

Be willing to stop / cancel if she finds she really doesn't like it, though chances are if you avoid unplesant substances, and pick a warm day, it'll be fun.

Practicalities: Plastic dust sheets down and make sure they are "floor grade" - the other ones rip as soon as you breathe on them. Either do it in the bathroom or make sure there is a prepared path of towels from wherever you do it to the bathroom. Once finished getting messy, take a shower together still fully clothed - the warm water will add another layer of sensation and the clothes are easier washed / disposed of if you've got the worst of the mess out in the shower before stripping. Have a plastic tub to put the wet clothes in.

Afterwards: Do all the cleaning up, so she isn't faced with a huge chore afterwards. Will be far more tempting to do again if the overwhelming memory isn't three hours trying to scrub custard out of the bedroom carpet.

Good luck and have fun!

My only advice is to ensure that whatever mess you use, it's warm!! From past experience, warm gunge is a winner whilst cold gunge, you won't be doing it again.

Gunge provides an easy to make messy substance which is easy to clean away and has no smell or lingering effect. Can be bought easily online. And it has that classic 90s nostalgia if you're into such things.



And of course I have to say why not use one of my mini gunge tanks to deliver the mess. Or one each haha.

Rule 1: She has first dibs on the shower afterwards.
(You can load all the used mess into buckets while she showers, and put the kettle on)

Secondly;
+Check your water is working before you start
+Prep is everything, tarps/dust sheet everything- you'll be surprised where the splatter ends up!
+Choose mess that wash easily (water based) and won't stain.
(Natrosol or HEC gunge is very good- use children's poster paint to add colour if you DIY it)
+Choose food based mess with her; so you'll avoid anything she doesn't like.

Backup plan- if she doesn't enjoy getting messy, tweak the rules or rig the game so its her getting you messy.
(Certainly give her opportunities for revenge)

Have a read of the spotless sploshing blog. Read up on the types of mess you're planning to use, and send her the section about looking after her lady parts.

Show her your favourite scenes on here/elsewhere, so she gets an idea of what to expect- and you get her honest opinion of anything she really doesn't want to do.
I showed my partner (now wife!) some of my favourites for gunge fun and full on messy sex; we learned a few important things before we started:-
++ No pouring gunge in her mouth (not my thing either- but one video had that near the start and it really viscerally put her off, rest of the scene was hot though!)
++ She hates the feeling of wet clothing against her; so for us its either naked, swimsuits, or lingerie
++ I really do just love gunge. She'd googled my interests earlier in the week and ran face first into some of the more gross WAM stuff which put her off a little. Seeing what I really liked/wanted helped put her at ease, along with my promise that I'll never eat chocolate cake off her ass!

Above all: good communication is golden.
Have fun!

Great advice here. Just make sure she has the best chance of having a good time. Only you know what means, but to me warm mess, not ruining her best outfit, a chance to get you messy, lots of teasing, laughing and confidence, can you include something she also likes? No clean up for her.

Try not to go in with awkward nerves, like this is a weird thing to do, go all in with the this is really fun, I've always wanted to do this energy.

Simple statement, but fantastic advice. I kept feeling awkward about it for years and it really needlessly held me back. It really isn't that weird of a thing. On the spectrum of fetishes and kinks, pouring food on a partner is relatively tame. It's pretty damn fun to cover each other with tasty substances. I imagine more people than you'd think would love to pie/be pied by their partner. But it sounds like from your post, that you already have a great mindset going into to this.

When I had this revelation and finally explored WAM with my current partner, I treated it as a playful thing. I also want to echo the others that say to start small. A lot of us have lived in this world for a long time and are used to seeing massive messings but most people have not. Starting small also lets you see her comfort zones without blowing past them. I started with a just can of whipped cream and it went really well as we ramped up. If I had hit her with a 5 gallon bucket of cake batter right away, she may not have been so receptive. (Still working up to this one!)

I'd also suggest discussing which substances she'd be interested in before hand. Using savory or unpleasant smelling stuff would make the experience unenjoyable for me and less likely to want to repeat.

Simple advice for not ruining outfits:

Synthetic fabrics will wash out MUCH easier than natural fabrics. Just check the tags of whatever she plans to wear and go with the synthetics.