...well, this is just a secondary question - but Itīs also interesting to read some stories from you.

The main question is: Who did experience something messy that goes further than watching messy scenes or self-wamming?

I wondered how many people could actually realize his or her dreams and get more of the cake (pun?) than just watching or doing-it-by-yourself.

By "Found a matching partner" I mean someone who (at least a little) accepts your fantasies and is willing do participate in at least some of your sessions.

But I think its even more interesting to hear from someone who experienced a messy session with someone else he didnt pay for.

Thanks in advance for your statements (and maybe stories)!

Together with the poll it seems like there are just some special types of stories I want to read. But this isnt the case. You are free to tell my everything.

Unfortunately this "everything" cant match with the poll.
Ive provided some alternatives that surpass the experiences an average wammer makes. Who had a session with someone he didnt pay for? Or who has even had a paid one? In my eyes these are rare gems.

So it is a little daring to allege I would look for people who have realized my dreams. I havent even talked about them

Anyway thanks for your thoughts and information.

I answered "free messy session with someone else" despite all the occasions when this has happened being with a girlfriend. They however, were not into WAM, and so I can't really say it was a messy relationship. The messy sessions were on an occasional basis, and largely thought out on my terms.

As for messy dreams realised, the title is certainly more broad than the poll - one of my dreams was to dive into a giant cake, and I accomplished that....

Thanks for your input, guys!
@Hea7h: I agree with you on paying for it. It doesnt feel right. Like if I had to atone for not finding someone who shares my fetish. Similar to paying a prostitute.
But it isnt that hard to find out, if your partner is into your fetish.
You just have to know about sub-communicating, psychology-stuff and you must start with little things like using chocolate-sauce on her. If you are a little skilled with reading mimic and body language, you know if she likes it, even though she tells the opposite. And when she likes it, it isnt that hard to admit, that you like it too. She is a "fellow prisoner" then

You can also do that with only-female friends, too. Just acting it out like a game, not telling that it is a fetish of yours. It is sad: Ive got a lot of ideas and tricks, but not the matching girls:ohbruther:

@Labyrinth: You chose the right alternative. Your answer is an example at how you have to differentiate between free session/ and relationship.

I like your dream. From where did you get that giant cake? Wedding?
I look forward to read the circumstances. You can also wirte a pm.

I did get to live out jumping on a giant sheet cake. 6 full sheets in total. (I really should add more pics of it) I'd like to top it in the future, but that may be a while due to the complicated logistics of such a task.

Future dreams would be an even bigger cake while wearing gear, or to act out a situation like ruining someone's huge wedding/birthday cake, or to recreate the pie slide.

Mine was a similar set up... I laid out 6 sheet cakes as a base layer, put another 4 on top of that, then 2 on that, and 1 in the middle, resulting in a 4 tier cake about 4 feet wide and 1 foot tall. I got naked and just dived down onto it... One of the best messy experiences of my life and one that I want to do again at some point, but as Blu Drgn said, it takes a lot of planning logistically and financially - I think a cake that big costs about Ģ250!

I've fucked two girls in mud... I suppose that counts.

Janet and I met on a non-fetish related dating site this summer, seems to be going well so far

-JD

My girl isn't much into getting messy, but she accepts what I'm into and partakes a little. She didn't want to get messy last weekend but she didn't hesitate dishing it out to me. Pics are at this link in the Male forum if you're interested.
http://umd.net/forums/topicid/457343

Did you notice that as of this moment, 47% of the people that participated in this poll report to have found a messy relationship; that's pretty encouraging

I'd say!

Norman

Thanks for the participation this far. By now the results are amazing and they changed my point of view. The next poll will be about "Where did you get to know your messy partner?"

@Goodwrench: How did you tell her about your fetish? She is not into it so it must have been a little harder...

Hey,
I’ve been tempted to give this unsolicited advice many times (usually when I see a post pertaining to “I’m giving up WAM”) and never have. Here goes:

Every single person in the world has desires and fantasies; these vary greatly. Our group here has a fetish that seems to bring a lot of guilt and shame. Getting wet and messy can be viewed as a childish activity, and the humiliation OR submissive aspect can be considered emasculating. As a teen and young man in the dating world, I was embarrassed of my interest in WAM.

I’m not sure exactly when it changed, and I was still very timid and hesitant when I finally did tell my partner. She took it hard. Her reaction was much what I expected. Over time I talked to her about it, and showed her what I liked to do. Over time I learned what aspects she was comfortable with and I have focused on that.

My advice is that if you are looking at this website and enjoy consuming this material and acting on these fantasies, understand that it is part of you. EMBRACE it. It’s “YOUR THING”. I therefor think it is ESSENTIAL to share this part of yourself with your partner. Relationships are built on MANY MANY things, and with a strong foundation a partner will be willing to go to great lengths to indulge you.

WAM is not something a relationship is likely to be built on, but I think most of us here find it to be a necessary part. When dating you need to be COMPLETELY HONEST with YOURSELF! These desires do not GO AWAY over time, and being in a long term relationship with someone that is ignorant of your fantasies or who is not open to fulfilling your fantasies will result in animosity, sadness, jealousy, anger…etc.

I’ve seen tons of advice over the years on this site. Members have posted EXCELLENT ways of introducing the idea of WAM to a partner, and they’re all great. You must evaluate YOURSELF and YOUR relationship to determine the best way to bring it up. But I implore all you young WAMMERS; bring it up fairly early in a relationship, and if she/he is disgusted and wants no part of it, at least you know where your WAM life stands with that person in your life.

Are you shure you should discuss it in the early part of the relationship?
If you wait longer the relationship will stand on a more solid base.
I guess it is more likely then NOT to deter your partner. Sure, it will be shocking for her if she isnt into it anyway.

But the question is: Do I want a partner who is not into it?
I would feel like a child or a patient who needs his medicine. Dependent. While my partner isnt. And this sucks.
I demand at least a (sadistic) feature that allows her to enjoy giving it to me.

I prefer the sneaky way: Start with trivias like chocolate sauce as a little sex-play.
You can playfully increase the mess and if she doesnt like it, you know whre you are at.

There is NO risk. SHE is the one who has to make a statement when you use it on her. If she doesnt it is up to you if you tell her about your fetish.