Hey I'm curious for those who have introduced their partners to wam and what they learnt from that or just general experiences really on that topic.

I've received two very different reactions from my last two girlfriends.

- One didn't get it and didn't feel motivated to try it out. It got to the point where a mention of a pie in the face or seeing one IRL made me uncomfortable. (We're no longer together.)

- My current partner didn't get it, but knew that it turned me on, and that turned her on, which gave her the motivation to try it. She is indifferent to getting messy herself, but enjoys doing it to me, and doesn't mind being in the videos I make (albeit behind a mask), which is a huge step, since both of us are professionals with good jobs in prestigious fields with big career aspirations. Nowadays she even proactively suggests ideas for future videos (like saving a bunch of zip ties from her last move and mentioning we should use it "for the porns").

With these reactions, I learned I needed to find someone who was willing to try it out every now and again. My gf's open-mindedness is truly a gift and I feel very lucky.

Thanks so much for sharing. I found your answer really insightful and especially cute how your girlfriend says "for the porns". I'm glad you have found a nice balance that works for you both.

Hey, I think you've got a very good point. How the person makes you feel is definitely a key factor. I think though kink and how a partner reacts to it especially kink shaming, if they are that way inclined can be a deal breaker which is understandable but I do agree it shouldn't be first on the list when looking for a human to love. That's my opinion anyways. Thanks for sharing your experience so far.

Never introduced a girlfriend to WAM before my current one.

First girlfriend- was in high school so zero chance of that happening

Second girlfriend- was in college, she was freaky so maybe?

Third girlfriend- No chance. There was a three year age gap (I was a senior in college, she was a freshman) and no idea looking back why I got into that. We were together for almost three months and not only did we never drop the L word but my parents never even knew about her so Wam was out of the question.

Current girlfriend of 2 years: fully supports it, not into it herself but loves how turned on it gets me and is more than willing to wear a dress in the shower on occasion. I'd love to have an Anglefan-style video of her one day where she's in a maxi dres and a jean jacket and just gets slimed and pied repeatedly.

Sounds like it's definitely been a journey for you but I'm glad your current girlfriend is more supportive and open minded. Hopefully one day, she will be open to that, you never know until you ask when the time is right.

First girlfriend, we kind of accidentally introduced it to each other. We were using whipped cream in a more traditional, non-fetishy way. I "pied" her with a big glob of it trying to be funny and she loved it. We immediately grabbed the can of whipped cream and a bottle of chocolate syrup and ran to the bathroom and went to town on each other. That started a theme of heavy WAMming for the the rest of the relationship and awoken it as a kink for both of us. Not sure if she carried that on in her future relationships.

I never felt the desire to WAM with most of my other partners. Any body else experience this? Like, I was definitely attracted to them but they just didn't light that messy fire inside me or I never felt like I wanted to share that part of me with them.

I did have one partner that I really wanted to and she even mentioned her interests involved getting messy before I said anything about it but whenever I brought it up, she never seemed very keen. Plus her living situation was challenging for pulling it off. We tried some basic body paint play once but she didn't get very into it and wasn't eager to try it again. Not sure what the situation was there and I didn't want to push the issue if it wasn't going to happen organically.