After a long time mulling over it, I've finally decided to take the plunge and introduce my other half to my sploshing kink.
Can I ask people to post their favourite fun and playful WAM photos so I can show her when I finally get round to "the chat"? Nothing too crazy, just something that captures the joy and sensations of it. Especially if you've been in the same position and you remember certain photos that you used to encourage your partner to give it a go.
Sweet foods and gunge are preferred (that's my interest).
Here's a couple GIFs of a session I had with Maria. I think they do some good illustrating of the fun of WAM. You can see she's clearly having a good time, despite the cold, and the mess
I would not highly recommend jumping in at full speed with both feet so to speak. Start slowly and gently. When I first introduced my wife to WAM while we were just dating, it was very small, simple things such as a dab of frosting on her nose which eventually led to small squirts of whipped cream on her nipples, then to eventually a spoonful of pudding playfully thrown at her shirt. It took time, patience, love and understanding before it was "normal" for us. Now she's happy to sit in a big pie or cover her body in pudding or fill her bra with whipped cream and custard or... well, you get the idea. Just take your time, pace yourself and let her tell you what is comfortable for her. Especially if you actually value your relationship with her.
I'm not sure pictures are the best way to start. What looks very sexy / sensuous to "us" I unlikely to do so to a non-wamner, plus there will be the risk your partner compares their own body to the model in the photo and feels ugly, which is absolutely not the effect you want.
My experience is that warming together should primarily be about the feel and experience, and not the visuals. Most partners will enjoy it more if being closely held and cuddled, rather than you standing back and admiring the view. Make it sensual and sensuous.
Most important thing? Make sure the other person feels comfortable, and particularly, warm. Book a classy hotel room with a double bath tub, share a sensual clothed bath together. And be willing to end it as soon as she feels tired. Any actual food sploshing is liable to be a freezing cold experience for them, so said that until they've at least got the basic concept of wet clothes down, and then bring in being messy.
I just read Julie Andrews book "Home Work" about her film career, and she said she was offered the female role in the Great Race before Natalie Wood got it. I think Wood was the better choice but I would have liked her in it too. (She did a brief shaving cream pie skit with Carol Burnett which was sort of blah.)
Make sure whatever you use in large quantities is warm. A few spoonfuls of semi-soft ice cream is one thing but you don't want to use a lot of cold stuff. When we used cake mix we always did the prep a couple of hours before, putting it in plastic buckets that sat in warm water in the bath tub. Hot summer days are great for big messes.
Maybe it works for some people but I'm not sure posting pictures of women absolutely submerged in WAM substances and covered from head to toe is the best way to introduce a nervous amateur into it!
The best way to share your kink is to ask about hers. Most people have a kink flag. What's on hers? Also, words mean things. Saying you want to do something with someone vs doing something to them, they can land pretty differently.
Kcmg85 said: After a long time mulling over it, I've finally decided to take the plunge and introduce my other half to my sploshing kink.
Can I ask people to post their favourite fun and playful WAM photos so I can show her when I finally get round to "the chat"? Nothing too crazy, just something that captures the joy and sensations of it.
This is one of the ones I sent my partner:
WAM covers a lot of different areas. When I mentioned sploshing to my partner, she did a bit of her own research afterwards which lead her into different areas than I'm into; after a typo (splooshing) brought up something else sploshing usually returns a lot of pie/cake/food type scenes rather than the gunge stuff I love.
For me the best thing is to show your other half your favourite scenes and the stuff you'd love to do together. Watching porn together is also great since you can gauge your partner's reactions to the different parts of the fetish.
Also communication- talk about what you'll like to do and any areas outside your comfort zone and things that you're not into so you both know where each other's boundaries lie. Your partner may not find the visuals 'sexy' per say, so you could mention the enhanced sensations (it feels amazing!) or that is doesn't have to be sexy, it's also a lot of fun in its own right too!
The start slowly rule is something we only loosely followed- our first time we were both were fully coated in gunge and having some amazing sex! Followed by 2nd, 3rd, 4th... 6th time ending in an inflatable pool with the best part of 100 litres of gunge, filled swimsuits, a photoshoot each, and some messy bondage gear!!
With the amount of mess you might need: 10 litres will fully coat two people if you're naked and sliding around on PVC bedsheets (or anything waterproof). The "20L per person" rule of thumb applies more to clothed people taking an overhead gunging.
Gunge is super slippy, but also works as a sex lube in its own right- variants of missionary/doggy/cowgirl work very well, as well as bringing out the full sensations from fingers/hands/toys. For oral sex, gently wipe any thick layers of mess to the side- this makes it easier to breathe as well as not overflowing your mouth.
Few other tips Check the shower is working first! (also ask for the day/time of fire alarm tests if you're in a hotel) Turn the heat up in the room- it may feel very hot and stuffy while you're dry but it'll stop you getting as cold during/after your session. Ask your partner to help mix up gunge, this is a good safety check for any unknown skin sensitivity as well as keeping someone from awkwardly sitting there waiting. Fabric swimming hats- fantastic for keeping your hair clean and out the way. Unless you really want messy hair keeping the hat on can really help your partner's comfort. Keep a few damp flannels in arms reach- for wiping mess out of eyes etc.. Put a non-slip mat in the shower. (most hotels can provide one on request) Also your partner gets first dibs on the shower too.
Late to the party but may add some first-hand experience. When my partner told me about WAM roughly 10 years ago, I did some Google search myself. I stumbled over the website from WAM photography as first hit (he has a profile at the UMD, too) I liked the fun the models apparently had and his tasteful and artistic images. Really got intrigued to try it myself, and you can see on my profile that I wasn't disappointed Hubby owes you something, Chris!