Right then new to this but whatever need to get this off my chest. Had the fetish for a while now and kept it closely secret. I hate keeping secrets and for a while i desperately needed to tell someone who at least wouldn't judge me. Keeping this secret had made me quite ill and very worried. So im 18 and now at uni in England and thought fuck it I need to tell someone so I told my flatmate and then later my mates who went out clubbing with me while we were all drunk and on drugs.

Anyway needless to say was a bit weird but the relief of finally telling someone was brilliant. So I was overcome with emotion because this was pretty huge for me and I was incredibly worried what others thought of me. Thankfully my best mate he told me it was fine and that it was aright even though it was a bit strange and calmed me down that my mates wouldnt judge me about it and i got loads of messages from all them saying its all fine cause i was visibly worried. Anyway wondering if anyone had any other similar stories.

Yeah when i first told them I had something they were expecting far worse. They were almost disappointed ha. It seems in todays more acceptable climate of sex and fetishes more people understand peoples kinks so long as its not illegal. Wouldnt think of telling my family but with my mates its all the more accepting.

fair play for telling them. I myself told them on holiday when I was 2 whilst playing a drinking game. at first they were completely bemused and couldn't understand it. not that they do now 5 years down the line. they do mock me for it but it isn't a personal attack. one actually said fair play for me cos I actually had the guts to say it and he's true none of them have got the balls to say about there fetishism .once they over stepped the mark snd told someone completely new to the friend group which disappointed me but they soon realised they overstepped the mark and apologised. ultimately I have no shame in liking wam it's harmless and compared to some other stuff very tame.

I think a fair comparison would be shitting. It's a little unpleasant and unclean, but everyone else does it too. You don't generally talk about shitting with other people around you because they're not particularly interested in your shit. Even if you do, their reaction will be something like "Oh, that's nice. Why don't we change the subject."

Johnny Yes said:

"But I have never understood the need for someone to reveal their "kinks" to family or friends ( other than lovers or potential lovers).

Maybe the impulse is an attempt to get acceptance from others that one hasn't granted oneself. "

My thoughts exactly, and well put! When I see these types of threads, it is ALWAYS some young gun who is DESPERATE to find a partner (hasn't yet) or wracked with anxiety over his kink (usually happens after discovering the UMD for the first time)...and often, these younger folks come from sexually repressed (i.e., religious) households or upbringings.

I's ironic to me that they post HERE on the UMD. -- which is precisely designed to allow fellow enthusiasts and fetishists to communicate and share. -- about their need to disclose/divulge their kinks to their personal social network ...as IF they were the only ones who have kinks that could be embarrassing or awkward...

My advice to the poster: consider Johnny Yen's comment and use this forum to "come out"..you will find that it helps temper and reduce your anxiety about your fetish....and remember: Probably every single guy in your social group has a perversion, kink or fetish (perhaps many) that he would be embarrassed to share openly...you are just focusing on YOUR fetish, and forgetting that we are all "polymorphous perverse" in our sexual makeups.

I'm in the situation that while I'm fine with being reserved about my kinky interests, my BF is more transparent about them among his circles when sex talk happens, as he feels it's a bit deceptive otherwise, and I guess he likes to fly in the face of the culture of kink-shaming. It's good to know that his friends will be accepting of that aspect of me, though.

Flipping the tables, if I'm a true friend I wouldn't care either way whether I know about their interests; it's their business and they have a right to keep what they do with consenting adults private. I'd be honoured if anything that they trusted me with seeing a more complete picture of them.

I think my own reservations are mainly the because of the paranoia of something getting back to my family; not a discussion I want to have with them, and certain people don't make it easy when they dismiss certain things as wrong or gross. "Friends" you can tell to fuck off if they hate you for something so trivial. Harder when it's family.

I haven't even told myself yet. Finding mud behind my ears is rather startling.

Hooray! I'm glad your friends were cool about it. I grew up in a more conservative environment and saw people get beat up for much less. I probably wouldn't bring this up with my friends and family, but I remember talking to a stranger after a few drinks who was wearing a Piesexual t-shirt. I think this was the first time I ever spoke about my fetish, and man, that was a huge relief!

Even the most vanilla friend will usually not actually care. Those folks who think it's ok to try and shame somebody for their kink are pieces of shit. If a pal tried to fuck with me about it, I'd cut him out of my life instantly.

I encourage everyone not to apologize for what they want. Nobody gets to decided that for you.

OP glad you could unburden yourself.

Really don't understand why you had to tell someone. It's not like you're confessing a crime. I could happily keep this under my hat for the next billion years with no stress whatsoever...but to each his own!

Yeah; I also don't understand why it's something that NEEDS to be "confessed," - my friends and family know I make gunge videos for YouTube, but they think they're just fun homages to 90s TV, which they are, and leave it at that. It's not exactly a topic that's up for discussion.