So, I'm fairly certain I'm about as straight as can be. I have not even the least bit of interest in having sex with another man. But this last year I discovered that I occasionally like watching amateur porn staring solo males. And today I just bought my first video here on UMD produced by and starring a man.

I'm pretty sure this is a lot more common than people are aware of, and not just within the wam community. And I'm guessing the biggest reason straight men often keep it secret is because of the ingrained sexism and homophobia in our culture. Because apparently its totally normal for straight women to get off to lesbian porn, but a guy so much as gets off to another man, and he has to be at least bi-curious? (Going by what I've read elsewhere on the internet, this sentiment is pretty wide-reaching.)

For me, the appeal of solo male porn, at least at this point in my life, is that I can't exactly self wam in my current situation. And even once I move out, I don't exactly have the means or finances to do half the shit people on this site can do. So videos staring young men self wamming appeal to me, because the performer essentially dissolves in my minds-eye, and I see myself in the situation.

I still mostly consume a mix of heterosexual, lesbian, and solo female porn, but I feel no shame in adding the occasional solo male video to my repertoire. And I hope one day society as a whole can stop shaming people for even slightly deviating from sexual "norms" that are often no more than bullshit passed down from generation to generation with no justification.

/shrug I think a lot of people in society are caught up in terms and titles. It doesn't matter if it's race, sex, politics, religion, etc. You're a "this" or a "that". Maybe you ARE "bi-curious", does it matter, is it a bad thing?

Each and every person in this world is an individual. Yes, part of what we are is our heredity, and another part our experiences. But then there are parts that can't mathematically be accounted for, probably because we are ever changing. All of these things come together to make you YOU, and the you of tomorrow will not be the you of today.

It's not a bad thing, no. I just don't think I'm at that point right now. And it frustrates me that people would try to pin me, or anyone else, with a label that we don't want. Like, a much bigger and more troubling example of this, is the issue of some bisexual people being told by gay people that they're also gay people that just haven't fully committed to the gay lifestyle. I had never even heard of this until a couple years ago, and it makes me really sad. Why can't we let people be what they want to be, and call themselves whatever they want? We shouldn't feel the need to make people fit inside the narrow boxes that we've personally defined, and yet the human race still does this so much.

But obviously, I'm open to whatever the future holds for me. I'm not afraid of exploring outside of my current sexual boundaries, even if I probably take it a lot slower than some people. I mean like, a year ago I never even considered doing what a lot of people do here, and putting up videos of self-wamming sessions to help pay for the costs in the future. But, now it's not entirely out of the possibility - though I'm definitely not quite there yet.

Is it the sex of the model or the substance or clothing etc? For me there are a few youtube channels that I am not sure what the rules are around naming, but they are basically guys ruining expensive outfits with WAM. I enjoy them because for me it is all about destroying the outfit with WAM. I don't like cutting or ripping outfits it just does not do anything. But destroying the outfit is what gets me. So the sex of the model does not matter. Sure I prefer seeing a naked woman and turn it off if the man gets naked, but that is just me. Not saying there is anything wrong or right with it. Just whatever is your kink.

As I said in the OP, for me its more about whether I can imagine myself in the situation. So, like, it'd be massive turn off for me if its an older guy and/or someone with large amounts of facial hair. The only male videos I watch are with young, thin, relatively clean shaven men, because they look a lot like I do.

But you raise an interesting point that relates to WAM as a whole: unlike some fetishes, there is an insane amount of variety within this community - including in regards to why we're attracted to WAM in the first place. It's part of the reason I love it so much - we come from such a variety of diverse backgrounds, and have so many different tastes while being under the same general banner.