Hi all. I'm just going to get straight to it. I am married man with one child and enjoy getting gunged, my wife has done it with me twice and does not enjoy it, she does not mind my messy fettish and does not mind me doing it but she does not get involved.
Last night we was having a chat and I asked her if she would ever get involved and she said no. The question I would like an answer to is she said that she would not mind if I got gunged by other people as long as I did not have sex or do anything sexual with that person. As you can understand hopefully getting messy turns me on so I was wondering if maybe I should do what she said and book a session with someone?
I am un sure how they work and if I was to get horny after the session would someone kindly leave me to sort myself out lol. If I was to get messy it would have to be with a girl because I might find it a bit strange a bloke doing it to me lol.
Your dilema is a common one. So put your mind at ease and I will try to shed some light on the subject...
There are several women on here the offer messy sessions. I can't say what everyone else offers, but here's what I do. Firstly, I get to know exactly what the person wants from their session, what their likes are etc. I like to know how I can make the best I can for them without sexual contact being involved. A lot of the people get aroused during sessions (of course they do, it's a fetish after all!) and I am happy to leave them to relieve themselves or they can do it in the shower after the messy fun. As long as they are aware that I don't take part in any of that. Touching is just pieing each other and maybe rubbing some gunge into cleavage.
I also provide all the mess, prep it before arrival and clean up after. All you do is have fun and enjoy yourself! I am pretty sure it's the same for most of the women who offer sessions here, so you're in safe hands with us!!
I think it's mainly losers who relieve themselves at the scene of the session. The three sessions I've done have involved filming the action and then returning home to enjoy the footage privately.
It's obvious that you would be aroused during the session and the woman being messed up may also notice the trouser bulge. But the gentleman in you would leave any personal relief to elsewhere.
Having said that, I have seen some clips where the model provides sexual relief, but I think the majority of those would be their partner
Sorry for putting a dampner on this plan, and obviously I don't know you and your wife or how your relationship works, but I can see this going really badly wrong.
Are you sure that what your wife's hoping you'll say at this point isn't "Look, darling, I've thought about what you suggested, but it just wouldn't be the same with anyone else. Its got to be you getting messy, and if you don't like it then lets just forget about it". Buoyed up by the thought that its all about her, not the mess, you might even find she becomes more receptive to the idea, if not now, then somewhen in the future.
I really worry that, even if only subconsciously, this is by way of a test from your wife, and if you head off to get your kicks with someone else you just rubbing her face (so to speak!) in the fact that, after all, it is the mess that's important to you, not her.
Really hope this works out for you, one way or another, though.
Its a good idea from above make it around her being the importance bit. Askher what it is that dose not like about it. Then build an argreement maybe she does not like gunge but would get messy in custard sayl
sit down and talk. I am lucky that mrs Wammer88 understand that I really enjoy it but there is certain stuff she made clear she does not like so I don't use. But you must talk to her and make her feel involved and you may both reach a compromise.