Hi I don't know where to put this thread so I'm sorry if I'm in the wrong place. I am 24 and a straight man and living with my parents and I have aspergers syndrome and disylixia. I don't want to make this long but I think it will be. As I said I have aspergers syndrome and I love getting wet and messy both my doctor and social worker both told me I have to tell people that I have it because apparently I freak people out when I get scared or aniouxs like stuttering and not being able to stop shaking to the other end which is running shit scared through a shopping center with my hands over my ears crying overwhelmed with noise and activity around me even bright lights. I'm also really bad at social stuff I say the wrong things by accident or ask to many dumb questions getting people mad and am constantly scared of hurting people by only saying hello to some one I don't know walking past in the street. I really want to next year set my self a goal of having my first messy session with a women. Im scared of the telling because what if they don't want me to come then or if I don't and they see my weird behaviour like stimmi or carrying around a fox teddy I call ginger they might get mad at me and I don't like people shouting at me the noise really scares me and I want to love everyone and befriend everyone as no one is truly bad they have to have some good in them. I want to get messy with a women because I find it scary to talk to men but I im OK with talking to women and being around them because I have mostly nearly all the doctors and social workers are women and some even give me hug I LOVE HUGS there great they make me feel all fuzzy and cared for. I just wanted to lay it bear and see if people think I should wam alone or not any replies would be greatly appreciated thanks fuzzy.

The most important thing with any situation like doing a live wam session is to be totally honest and open in advance. It's a truth well known but never properly acknowledged that many sex workers provide fare more therapy and support than they do sex. So as long as you explain your needs and wishes, I can't imagine many having any kind of problem with stiming or with Ginger. Everyone's first time doing anything unfamiliar is always at least a bit scary, some are just better at hiding what they're really feeling than others.

I guess meetups and live sessions are all off for the moment because of the various lockdowns, but once the virus has subsided things should normalise again, good luck!

Thank touch so much for your replie. I'm a virgin too so it would be a really fun amazing event for me and ginger. Do you think the lady would hug me? Because I love hugs.

Also do they let you have a shower and change into fresh clothes afterwards?

Hiya - if you booked a session I'm sure hugs are something you could discuss when you book it, and you could bring spare clothes and clean off afterwards.

I also think you'll probably get the most useful responses in the Messy Minds Group, which is really good at helping with this sort of thing.

Good luck to you....go for it...but make sure everything is clear beforehand.

Also, on a personal note, I used to be scared of WAM meet ups too.

Then I met Jayce...........and now i'm petrified.

Robby

www.wammalamapie.com

www.shepiestheguy.com

https://wammerific.umd.net/

I'm sure Jayce isn't as domineering as MG Lane. I met with her twice and being the passive person that I am, there's no way Lane would ever do anything with a dominant male. Lane wouldn't even let me undress her in our MG Revenge shoot. I hope one day in our post socially-apocalyptic world I can do a shoot with Penelope. I also hope to do a shoot with Jayce and Ariel one day as well. I work for a company associated with another company that just so happens to share a name with a large South American river and I am making so much more relative to my cost of living so I'm getting closer to doing another messy meet up or 2. I've also traveled to Europe 4 times and would have been a fifth earlier this month, but I can always go back. Oh, and I'm getting closer to paying off my mortgage too so I'll have an extra 500-1500 a month since I'm a good boy. That monthly savings should be enough for a messy shoot or 2

Speaking of Jayce Robby, if you're looking for someone to make a custom for you first Fuzzy then I highly recommend Jayce or Ariel. I've worked with both of them more than once and they are simply outstanding when it comes to timeliness, paying attention to detail and making it just the way you want it. I'm sure there are many others who are great at customs as well!

And it's okay to be scared. Sharing one's fetish with others can be a terrifying prospect as it's so personal. It took me years to unveil to my ex-wife that I was a wammer and after all the time building up the courage she wasn't even too keen on it. Then years later and after the divorce I found someone who was immediately intrigued and tried it with me, and even though we aren't together anymore I won't forget that experience.

I say trying to find someone here in the Personal Forums is worth trying for sure. If you want more than a session but rather feel a connection with someone however I say trying to build a relationship with someone you know or meet personally in your area will be more fruitful. You can reveal your fetish when you think it's the right time in that case. Just my two cents, thanks for posting and I'm rooting for you!

Wow it so amazing I'm crying right know I was terrified about writing all of that and trying to spell check it a thousand times I have disylixia and my not so smart as I thought phone has picked up how to spell from me so sometimes it is totally funny. Sorry got side tracked you people are amazing I wish I had friends like you all in my real life

Also thanks you all for rooting for me I feel happy now. Also some of your replies make me smile. Don't worry I always clear if its ok for a hug I love hugs.

If you think you write long posts, I can beat you!!!

To be honest, I think most people get scared or nervous before a meet up of any kind, whether wam-related or something else, because you never quite know what the other person is going to be like until you meet them. There's no magic formula. And just because other people think someone is great, it doesn't mean that you will think the same way - and vice versa: someone that most people don't get on with may well be the perfect match for you! We're all different - and while we're on this site because of a general common interest, we ALL want something different to everyone else on here. Some like pies, some like gunge, some like water, some like games, some like humiliation, some like no physical contact, some want fully clothed, some want nudity, some want it to be sexual, and some want hugs!

What I'm trying to say is that no-one can be certain that their meet is going to go well or go badly. But there are ways to try and make sure you have the right person - chat with them on here, for example.

I tend to like going on webcam on skype (or whatever cam app you want to use) and saying hello to people too (not doing gunge stuff on cam, but just have a chat). You can't tell really if you'll get on with someone through text chat, but you can learn a lot by hearing their voice, seeing what they look like (for real, not in the ten year old pics!), and whether there's some form of chemistry between you - and I think that's important. You could find the nicest person in the world, but if there's no connection it's a bit dull.

Also, of course, on webcam you can see if they're genuine (which take away some of the nerves of meeting up) and how they react to YOU too. And as you're concerned about what people will think of you due to your condition, then that might be useful for you.

And if you do speak to someone on here/cam etc that wants to meet you but you're not sure about them, don't be afraid to tell them thanks for the offer, but you'll take a raincheck - come up with an excuse if you want to, or just be honest. I'd rather have honesty.

In the end, what you feel in your gut about someone will tell you a lot. If it feels good, go for it. If you are not sure, listen to yourself and try to find someone else.

*consoles through computer*

Just remember to bring the clean clothes with you instead of leaving them at the hotel. Second worst bus ride I've ever taken.

Your best option is to pay for a session, rather than trying to find someone who will do this as a partner. Maybe some day, but for now your role as a customer will be more comfortable. As others have said, be up front and honest about what you want and what you're struggling with, and you should be able to find someone accommodating. And bring some extra cash so that if it goes well you can leave a tip. If you're friendly and respectful of her boundaries, and especially if you leave a tip, she'll be happy to see you again!

Thanks for all the nice replies. The hug part isn't sexual I just find them really comforting and soothing and paying for a session is a good idea and tipping is also really good idea I wouldn't have thought of that. Also skyping is a good idea because as you said I could tell if she's nice and we could talk. I definitely won't forget spare clothes or ginger either I'm really organised thanks everyone.

I'm really interested in what's the worst one you had?

Well, I never thought I would ever have a meet up ever, then Vika moved next door and after realizing how crazy she can actually be (at the same time how open and let me tell you a non stop talker. I swear she stopped by one night to drop off a Christmas card and talked for three and a half hours straight) Though, truthfully, I am glad for the experience because she is a good friend. Also introduced me to Alana who was nice though I was pretty drunk that night so didn't get to talk to much.

P.S. Getting into a Facebook argument with Tilly McReese was kinda surreal.

Getting into a Facebook argument with tilly mc Reese had me in stiches and I love talking being Irish I was born with the gift if the gab as they say it would be great to talk no stop for that length of time. Thanks for your comment.

The time going from center city Philly out to Roxborough (about a 45 min ride) with a family of about 20, heading out to their family reunion in the park across the street from where I was headed. Between them and all their picnic paraphernalia there was only just barely enough room to stand. I think the driver actually had to turn away passengers just a few stops after I got on.

Yeah, if I had to choose between that and standing, trying not to touch anything, in my wet, muddy, gungey pants and no shirt (thankfully my jacket was clean) on the ride back to the inn from the Moomins' UMD20 party, I'd choose the second one.

I am embarrassed to say this but since you shared your worst one I'll share my worst one.
In 2017 I Had bad stomac (you might see where this is going) on my way to work on the bus and the feeling of need to shit really, really badly came over me and I ONLY JUST made it to a filfy bus station toilet in rural bus station in Ireland set your watch back 20 years the place was never done up in its long life (think train spotting worst toilet in Scotland x10000) hovering over this cracked filfy clogged toilet with the only stall with toilet paper and a broken lock sprewing hire lava from my assignment. 2/10 would recommend.

As someone who's done a few sessions over the years, feeling nervous isn't a bad thing, indeed, I fret more if I don't feel nervous leading up to a session! I think everyone that offers sessions has showers, I'd always aim to have at least one spare outfit. From what you've said, Ari might be a could choice for a session - https://3g-girls.umd.net/ (hopefully, things will get back to normal eventually)

Thanks mate I'll definitely look into it they look really cute to so it would be nice.

Only just noticed this thread. I don't comment on things often, but as a UK based male with a WAM fetish and Aspergers, I should be able to relate.

The need to escape the sensory overload is something very familiar to me. My 5yo son, who also shows autistic traits, spends all day talking really loudly, and it feels like it physically hurts. I can't be in a room with a ticking clock as I can't block the noise out, I eat bland food as I find tastes and smells overpowering. Working in an open plan office around people drinking coffee when I can smell it all day is surprisingly distressing.

As for the WAM side, my partner does try and indulge me in this from time to time, but my brain doesn't always allow me to enjoy it. I enjoy the humiliation aspect, the model complaining she's cold or being grossed out appeals to me. Even if my partner does indulge me, if she says it, I know she's uncomfortable even if she's willing. My brain doesn't allow me to ignore that and just enjoy it. That's what she wants me to do, but I just can't, I'd rather just stop. Then I get angry with myself for not being able to enjoy myself even when I'm getting everything I want.

I also understand the long comments (as you're probably picking up on). I've never sent a work email and had a recipient come back and say "Can you explain that in more detail", because I always go over the top.

Hi cris mate I really relate to your post about sensory overload and had a idea I've found a escort in my area willing to splosh with me which I'm pleased with but I am sure I'll enjoy it lots and I told her about everything and she's OK and knows what to do if I get overloaded so I'm happy.

Just to repeat what everyone else has said, if you're open and honest about what you want with someone, then that should be fine. Most people on here will be receptive of that.
I understand where you're coming from on being socially nervous. I have social anxiety myself and I have also recently been diagnosed with borderline Autistic Spectrum Disorder.
Once the ice is broken at your first messy session, you'll love it. As we said, just be honest about what you want and whoever you meet should be considerate of that

I was 100 percent honest with the lady I'm gonna see about my mental health problems and aspergers syndrome and she's OK with it which I'm pleased with I've discussed what's happenes and what to do when overloaded and she says she can handle it.

Wow, I'm the exact same age as you and I'm on the autism spectrum myself. Most people who meet me would never guess it, however, since I am very good at mirroring and imitating other peoples' behaviors and expressions--these expressions just don't naturally come to me like they do neurotypical people. I have to consciously think about how I move my mouth and eyes and body constantly. None of it is instinctive. The thing is, though, practice makes perfect.

It's sort of like when you first get a job at a service industry and you have to learn how to make burgers fast. When you're starting out, you have to consciously, slowly put a burger on a bun, then the lettuce, then the tomato, then the condiments, etc. After a year of making burgers, you can just sort of make them without really thinking about it. This is kind of what it is like for me to act "normal" around other people. It's not something I instinctively know, but I've deliberately taken myself out of my comfort zone enough times and practiced my expressions in front of the mirror enough times that I can blend in with everybody else reasonably well.

Another thing that helps? Read and write. Constantly. And go over what you write. You will learn how to become more articulate if you do that, both in writing and in speech. Writing is one of my favorite things to do in the world, and my autism plays a huge part in why I like it so much.

Here's why I like it:

1. When I have to face people in real time, I have to worry about facial expressions, body language, all that neurotypical BS. Not so with writing! I don't have to be there, so people will apply their own version of my inner voice to me. And to them, that voice sounds normal. For some of them, it might even sound cool or sexy or interesting. If they heard me in real life, they probably wouldn't think that. Writing gives me a strong, empowering voice. It allows people to see me how I really am inside, and how I really feel about myself, even if I struggle to convey that on the outside. I wish people could see that version of me when they meet me in person. I'm still working on that.

2. I can amend what I want to say before it's released into the world. No more stuttering. No more rambling. If you knew the stuff I deleted and edited out, you'd know I'm autistic after reading just two sentences. I can convey my thoughts better when I write, and it allows me to focus and stay on-topic.

3. Writing just makes me feel stronger and smarter. I can be any character I want to be when I write. I can sound articulate and witty when I'm really not. It's a beautiful, powerful thing.

Anyway, I have very little advice as to how to get involved in the WAM scene or even anything sexual as I, too, am a virgin and I've never experienced it myself. But that's my advice as to how to eliminate the social anxiety part of things, and perhaps if you do that, other things will click for you. And for me, I've noticed that as I read and write, I've gotten better at interaction with others incrementally.

I'm a lot like you where I love hugs and certain components of intimacy--but at one point in my life I couldn't even touch people...like even just a high five or a fist bump would freak me out. And now I'd love to have sex one day whereas maybe even just two years before I was repulsed by the very idea. The fact that I've come that far is a testament to how much I've changed. And I'm changing every day.

So yeah: read and write. It's fantastic practice and it will make it so much easier to feel confident around people. I'm almost at that point myself. Best of luck to you on your journey! I'm rooting for you!

Thank you fellow autistic comrade I keep a thought journal which has grown from a small note book to a folder full of writings which is cool I agree that writing makes me feel stronger and I always try to fit in which is hard but I'm getting there. Thanks for the replie mate its very much appreciated. Fuzzy