Hello UMD,

First time poster, long time lurker. Over my time here on UMD I have enjoyed all the content that this lovely community has provided. It has given me pleasure and joy throughout my life knowing that I am not alone in enjoying this fetish. However I have expressed a longing to partake in this fetish with a like minded individual in a safe manner, short video clips and still photos only go so far.

I have dabbled on the wide web for sites but those seem quite.......extreme....for my tastes. Most involve bodily fluids and some degree of torture (oh my!). What even is a 'sugar daddy'?! If anything, those sites have made me realise that I am quite 'vanilla' when it comes to sexual things. Yes okay I would like to have a loving girlfriend who plays with herself whilst I cover her in cans and cans of shaving foam. But I would also like a girlfriend who is more a soul-mate, down to earth....wants to just chill and watch movies on the couch and snuggle. Hold hands whilst walking on the beach..... and then want to take a dip in her summer dress in the water and get soaked for fun!

On these sites its just...I dont know how else to describe it but to me when i see the words 'sugar daddy', 'sub or dom' , 'golden shower', 'scat play'.....it is extreme and puts me off. And the rare occasion when I do see a profile that mentions their hobbies and quirks outside of sex fetish stuff and I try to start chatting with them I am instead greeted with a payment plan instead!

Im poor already!! Buying wam supplies!! I dont have time paying for your shady site that I just happened to find on a vague google search tiled 'wam partners near you' that is most probably filled with bots and malware shit already hacking and siphoning money out of my bank accounts!! Sorry for that outburst... But with todays day and age of unregulated AI deep fake imagery, bots and voice manipulation...... can you blame someone wanting to be a bit careful?

Im a simple guy. Most probably naive and uneducated in how the online world of fetish dating really works and perhaps 'picky' in my 'type' of female companion but so be it! I admit it! It is human to have faults and I am willing to learn and grow as a person, to be better. Educate me in all this, UMD! I implore you! (although be kind please as I am a sensitive soul who has a raging boner at awkward bizarre times when getting shouted at).
I just want a woman who has social anxiety like me, is a bit quirky, wants to have fun going to comic con and binge watch star wars with, who has a love for thigh high socks and wants to get dunked in a tub of gooey chocolate pudding while i lick their lips, their vagina and call them beautiful and praise them as I join them in the tub. Okay perhaps wishing for those specific things is a bit of a stretch but I hope that gives you a general idea of what I am kind of seeking. A long term partner with a kink side.

TLDR; Any safe online sites you suggest were I can find like minded WAM enthusiasts. Like Tinder or eHarmony but for wam enthusiasts. Or should I just use those sites and be blunt in my profile description and see what happens? Thank you for taking the time to read some or all of this post. I hope this gave you some satisfaction, sexual or otherwise.... although if you got aroused from this thats impressive!
You are valued. You are loved. And you are beautiful. Thanks again.

From a wild bogan, snake wrangling, eucalyptus munchin, gas bagging waffling young guy from Down Under!

I am looking for something as well but I'm in the States. I tried posting a wam question on okcupid years ago but the mods didn't get it . I am hoping that umd can help us both. Cheers from the other side of the world my hopefully messy friend.