Did it ever happen to you?
You watch hundreds of wam scenes, you're turned on by them, and then, when you actually try to do the same thing with your female partner...you somehow block
:-( You assume, if you like it on the screen, you'll like it in real life too, but somehow it doesn't work :-(

Absolutely!
It took me awhile to tell my wife about my desire to put a pie in her face. The experience (and the many that followed) was nice but it would never really get me aroused until she was cleaned up and we were in bed, at which time I would recall how she looked pied as we had sex.
None of this should have surprised me as my pie pie fetish started by being a spectator to television scenes so being there at the moment was a type of disconnect.
We tried the pied blow job thing, too, but the absurdity of the situation would always over ride the sexual part and I would laugh too much to get into it.

Might this relate to a lack of, shall we say, "physical stimulation"? In other words, I bet you find something to do with your hands when you're sitting there watching those pie videos! That perhaps feels more awkward to do in front of your wife, or is even just physically awkward to do while actually throwing pies rather than just watching them be thrown.

While I love watching my clothed wife get wet, muddy or messy, I don't usually get particularly hard until the clothes come off and we're slipping over each other in the mess.

Try not to let it worry you, just enjoy the pie throwing and then keep going, perhaps using some of that lovely filling for lubrication. I'd say you haven't truly had sex until you've had sex covered in custard - the all-over slipperiness takes things to quite another plane!

Interesting. For me, it's always been the case that when it comes to wam, watching, PREFERABLY on a screen, is the real thing, and actually 'doing' wam held less appeal. I like the fact that it's fiction, it's staged, it's artificial. That's what got me into it, so that's what I was into. That's why I prefer scripted wam, with a range of edited shots, over the majority of stuff (that's basically a live event that 'happens' to have been filmed). Anyone else feel this way?

im in your camp Nick...clothed shower with my GF is nice, we're both using our hands to stimulate each other, but it's just not the staged, scripted, artificial pie slime throwing mumbo jumbo that gets me into wamming mode... it's gonna take time till i propose a scripted event to my GF, but who knows, maybe its gonna work for me after some time

I get this. I like the idea of a pie coming out of nowhere and hitting me by surprise... but the one time this actually happened it wasn't as fun as I thought. What I thought would be spontaneous was more like a shock. Since then I've had negative flash backs to that event and don't even like staged surprise pies. Sometimes it's more about the idea than the act when it comes to fetishes.

it's strange how our minds work

That's really interesting, Clinton! I look forward to the day that my wife might indulge me in some messy fun. But it may never happen. If it does, I hope that it works better for me, but I'm sure that's what's in everybody's mind. Then when they actually get to do it, based on your comments as well as some others, it ain't all it's cracked up to be! Hmmm......

Your comment about the messy BJ was also interesting. I'd die to have a BJ, period. A messy one - well, I *feel* like I would think I'd died and gone to heaven! They look so hot in pics and vids! :lovestruck: But I may end up having the same reaction as you. So thanks for posting these observations. At least if it happens to me, I won't think I'm any weirder than I am (you know, liking pies and messy sex! ). Hopefully, I'll remember what others like yourself have experienced.

But isn't that something; getting to do something that you've dreamed about your whole life, pieing your significant other, and then it doesn't work as you expected in the arousal department! Bummer!

Norman

I think that is ultimately, oddly, part of its fundamental appeal and why i appreciate partners/amateurs on here, as well as producers -- it's a fetish, it's "outside the norm" (whatever that means). It's fantasy.

I wouldn't want every sexual encounter to be pie related, and when i watch X-rated material, i will mix up WAM with other porn.

It's a fetish, a turn on. At least it is for me. Fun aspect to it or no...

But every fantasy is inevitably better in theory.

This is why post-masturbation tends to be a depressing moment more than a glowing one, but with a partner (esp the right one), there's no reason a sexual encounter would be depressing.

i've yet to ever work WAM into my sex life, but i also don't have as rich a sex life as i'd like so i'm concentrating on improving that before i start asking "hey, can you come over and let me put pies in your face?"

I envy, in a positive way, all those for whom WAM is a healthy, regular or semi-regular part of your life and hope i can experience it at least once

JY

I'll tell you my experience and you can see if this relates...

Some of my enjoyment of it is the humiliation appeal, but I'm not sadistic myself--I'd like to see two or more women trying to upstage one another with WAM. There are a lot of G-rated and PG-rated movies where such things happen to a deserving character, and that's really my favorite WAM. When I do it in real life, with a real person instead of a fictional character, I don't really want that person to suffer the kind of humiliation that I don't mind seeing someone take in a purely fictional setting. It's difficult to get quite as into it because I care too much...

Nope it's just as much as a turn on for me. I get excited before anything even happens. I'm turned on before, during, and after! Some times I allow myself calm down as its a longer session of messing before any intimacy.