As of the may 31st I will no longer be offering Skype sessions. They are a pain in the arse to organise and too many people cancel at the last minute! It is exhausting and frustrating. It's annoying because I love doing them! But it has gotten to the point now that every other booking cancels on me.
So if you want to experience a messy web cam session with me, you have until the end of the month!!
Unfortunately no. Most put off paying with lame excuses. I ask that the payment be received the day before, but they just don't send it, don't reply to my emails asking if they still want it and then message me an hour before saying they are 'so sorry' and they can't do it now. Really is annoying after spending usually over an hour finding out exactly what they want and agreeing a price.
An open letter from a wam princess to a wam queen!
Thanks for posting this Jessie and for giving a bit of an insight into the frustrations if this line of messy fun (or not as it sounds a lot of the time). I'd thought about doing this myself but wasn't really that keen. I think you've made up my mind for me. You don't need advice from me about how to survive as a messy model ( you could probably write a book on it!) but I think if it's not fun don't do it so by the tone of your comments it sounds like you've made the right choice.
I can say something to make you feel more appreciated though: since I started advertising to do customs again I have heard countless times about how good yours are and how much the clients enjoy them. For that to be said to a third party is something you should be very proud of so keep up the stuff you enjoy doing because it sounds like you are very appreciated!
It's not that I don't enjoy doing them, because I do! I would happily do them everyday if people would book in properly! If I could book sessions everyday I could even do them cheaper!! But people take ages confirming details and then let me down.
Preparing for a session takes at least an hour and i have to buy stuff in. People seem to think I have buckets of gunge, beans, custard and pies to hand at any given time. And they forget I am a single mother. And that I am human being.
I do... Some pay with no problem, others say they will pay asap. But then they just don't. They basically take up my time asking loads of questions, telling me what they want, arrange a day and time which is when I need to take a booking fee and then they just don't pay.
I appreciate all the feedback, but it's one one those things tht doesn't have a simplee solution that would work for everyone. Unless I refuse to discuss sessions without payment straight away. Which is unfair as I may not be able to help them. (which is unlkely as I do a lot on Skype)
Well, you shouldn't let a few bad apples ruin your good time.
If you've done a lot of negotiations for these sessions, you should be a pretty good judge by now of who is seriously interested, and who is just leading you on.
You should also only offer to use wam materials that can be stored away for a later use if someone cancels or doesn't show, and I wouldn't open anything (a can, a jar, a box, or a pack of pie tins) until cash is in hand.
Set a deadline time for payment, say like a certain amount of hour(s) before the Skype session is to begin. If you don't get that payment before then, you don't set up a thing and the deal is off. No exceptions. They can set a new date, but the same deadline rule will still apply.
That should clear out the posers. Hopefully, this will work out for you.
Jessica25 said: It's not that I don't enjoy doing them, because I do! I would happily do them everyday if people would book in properly! If I could book sessions everyday I could even do them cheaper!! But people take ages confirming details and then let me down.
Preparing for a session takes at least an hour and i have to buy stuff in. People seem to think I have buckets of gunge, beans, custard and pies to hand at any given time. And they forget I am a single mother. And that I am human being.
Jessie xx www.messy-jessie.com
I got that bit, I know you love what you do but what I meant was if you're finding the logistical part (which can be fun too sometimes when you're buying costumes etc) is taking up a lot of time and outweighing the rewarding part then you're right to just stop doing that thing. As you say there are lots of other things in life to juggle especially commitments to your children which is why I stopped being involved at all for a few years.