Ok so here's the deal. I've recently gone on a rampage paying for pie fun on NYC with willing mistresses. I've spent hours researching anyone who even mentions sploshing or food play. All in all, the sessions (4 of them over the past 2 months) have been fun, but something about it hasn't quite hit the target so to speak. For one, I'm not into bdsm stuff and am I crazy for feeling that being in dungeon is uncomfortable? All the women were fucking awesome and hot as hell BUT they all used the pies in an extremely sexual way. I mean, Yes- it's sexual for me, but not when it's 'who's my little pie bitch' and 'beg for my pie you worthless piece of shit'. I just felt stupid and found myself somewhat out of place.
I find a plain Jane woman holding a pie hot as hell and would love To receive one or eight. Is it possible to find (pay for) a woman that would just pie me and hold off on calling me her bitch? Help!
I (morally) support sex workers - it's certainly one of the oldest professions, but i think that some of them less familiar with the fetish may not get it unless you're more explicit about the kind of session you would like to have. If you're the one paying the money, and all you're asking for is for them to not get so sexually charged or overly aggressive about the activity, it would seem to me like that's a relatively easy discussion before you get started. These folks probably deal with people who insist on verbal humiliation frequently, so it may seem second nature to them.
I doubt that BDSM workers spend the rest of their lives calling folks "little bitch," and would have little issue handling the session less aggressively if you are completely up front about your expectations and your expectations are within reason and their realm of comfortability.
As a dungeon mistress or BDSM domme, it might be a little unusual to be asked to scale back on that aspect of what they do, but unless they're super hardcore, it seems like it shouldn't be a big deal.
Communication is key. Not everyone who participates in the fetish is 100% familiar with the various niches that pop up within. But I get what you're saying. Just remember that communication is key, and maybe that will help.
I'm gonna have to do some research. I need names and emails.
No your not crazy, you like what you like. And to be fair, if its not what you want then you shouldn't be paying for it... I have had no experience with actually paying for it, but have ran across some pro and amature doms in my life. Have you tried to explain your desires likes and dislikes? Most should be fairly receptive to your requests.... even though they are doms, they still like to please
Love you, too
