So - ive had a thing about mud since a young age and my first wife would indulge me and take me on muddy walks and let me play. now in later life and on my second marriage, things are slightly different as she doesnt share my weird likings. however, theres a place we visit where i take my kayak to padle the creeks in a tidal estuary and ive discovered at low tide there are some really muddy banks at the side of the creeks that look perfect for sliding down.
im in my late sixties now, should i ignore the urge, tell m wife what i want to do, or just go secretly and have a slide? my problem would be trying to get clean afterwards

Be true to yourself, life is short if your wife won't join in then go enjoy yourself. You could always say you got beached. Or take your wife and get beached and make it playful? Tidal mud is amazing just be careful and check tide times.

Never keep anything secret from a life-partner, secrets are toxic and corrosive to relationships.

Be honest about what you like to enjoy. It doesn't sound like you're insisting she takes part so she can go and do something she enjoys while you're having your fun? I guess making it easier on her by doing your own muddy laundry afterwards will probably help.

In terms of cleanup, back in my youth when I'd go out on a bike to find mud locations down the coast, I found that seawater is actually very good at getting mud out of clothes. So after mudding, change into a clean tracksuit or whatever, then rough-wash the muddy gear in the sea, store it in a watertight container for the trip home, straight into the washing machine with a ton of detergent. I usually run the machine twice for muddy clothes, once a full wash but with no spin, so it finishes with them still soaked, then add a second lot of detergent and a full wash with spin.

Thanks for the advice guys - I'll tell what I'm off to do. Any advice on what to wear? I have some canoeing gear called reed chill heater wick is rubbery on the outside and sort of fleecy inside. Should clean up ok and be quite slippy on the mud

Hope goes well. My advice on relationships in general is "never have secrets or tell lies", because as soon as the slightest fabrication is seen through, trust is lost, and it's very hard to rebuild.


That all depends on what you'd most enjoy. I've always liked getting muddy in tracksuits, overalls, or boilersuits, but that's because I like them, both to wear and to see women wearing, so best advice is to wear something you'll like getting muddy in. The most common choices for mudwear seem to be either a) what feels really good to the wearer, or b) something really inappropriate like a smart business suit. Though make it a machine washable one if you want to wear it again afterwards.

So we are down at the estuary for a week. The tides are perfect later this weekend but I can't pluck up the courage to broach the subject with my wife. I don't want her to get involved but I'd like her to know what I'd like to do.
Any advice please?