I was curious if m/any of the members here on UMD mention their interest in WAM on non-wam apps such as dating apps, or social media like Instagram. I figure a majority of people create separate user accounts for this. I was wondering if any mention it on their regular app accounts are there certain signs/hints the people drop on their profile as in certain pictures/words that possibly clue in others that you have an interest in WAM?
I used to carry separate accounts for my wam interests vs my regular social lists and now I like to live by the philosophy of 1. never make social media a priority, 2. never post anything you don't want someone knowing eventually, and 3. when I was involved in the dating apps I would often lead the conversation with it because I want to know if this person is on the same mentality level as I am and I want to know if they might be interested in trying it or have already tried it... because if yes yes yes then fuck yea!!
This is a very layered cake for us all because of people's professions etc and it's really interesting to think about it for how being open about it has helped some of us and why some still can't even if they wanted to. I would NOT put anything about it on my facebook or instagram but I do follow some people on insta that do post wam stuff.. It's just I have my family there and they don't need to know about it.
Some of my friends know some of them don't....
I used to only have recon as an extra app to mayyyyybe chat with someone but never more.. plus my odds with dating apps I wouldn't really get into that many deep conversations which saved me the trouble of having to navigate it if I hadn't brought it up already...
I used to have a youtube account where I would save specifically wam stuff.. but I forgot the password to it and the recovery account lol....
But other than that I've learned that while it may be transparent on one side (us looking out at the world) but when the world is looking out they don't see us... they just see what they want to... so I wouldn't worry too much if you said something to someone on a dating app.. but if you're not ready for peeps to know in eventually then I wouldn't go so far as instagram to drop any hints you're into it.. I can see how it would be perfect hip shrugging watercooler talk around the office...
Yes. There's no point in hiding something that is very important to me, especially when it comes to "dating." I simply have no interest in totally vanilla guys. If someone is not the least bit kinky, I wouldn't want to date them anyway. As for Instagram, I have no use for an ordinary profile so I just have one for fetish stuff.
Love you, too
