Heya! It's me again with another question for you all!

Now, I've not done WAM before but I AM interested, mainly getting messy in cosplay! BUT, I wouldn't think I would be interested in..having sex, bj's, hj's etc etc.

I know people like to be intimate during WAM but honestly I'm not sure if i'm into the intimate side of it, and because of that people don't really want to help me with my first session, and I don't really want to have sessions alone, I'd rather have someone there to help me get into it at the beginning!

Is WAM always about the intimacy and sex? As stated I'd rather not be intimate with another man..

Does anyone here feel the same? What should I do about this? Should I just give up trying to get into WAM? It's something I'd honestly LOVE to try, but I wouldn't want sex or other intimacies, and I wouldn't want to try WAM alone.

Thank you for taking time to read this <3

Hey! I don't think sex has to be involved in WAM always.
I have had meetings with people where we just chilled in the mud together. WAM can also just be a way of having fun, doing a thing that isn't quite seen as normal together and encouraging each other in the process.

While I can imagine WAM and sex going very well together, I've never done it. I personally am not hugely into casual sex either, so I would never have sex on the first WAM session with a stranger. On the other hand, if we both like playing in the mud, what's the harm in meeting up to do exactly that - just play and get muddy?

Can be both. I've had wam sessions which didn't involve sex, and some that did. Do whatever you're comfortable with, enjoy!

You can absolutely have WAM without intimacy. That said, there's no guarantee that you can find anyone who wants the same thing as you (much like life in general). You might want to consider doing a paid session somewhere (post-pandemic), then you can establish your limits up-front.

It doesn't always have to be about intimacy, plenty of people love it for the humourous side,however I remember once talking to a partner about WAM, I suggested custard on our bodies and she was dead against it, but said she would love to have aex during a foam party, and she adored shower and bath sex, because of the slippery sensation of bodies rubbing together, so I told her to imagine that same sensation using custard or whipped cream, with the added bonus that licking it off would taste good...

If it puts your mind at rest Mrs FB and I don't get intimate DURING our WAM sessions. Have you seen how absolutely disgusting the filth is that I pour over her head?

She might be my poor victim but the heck with getting into that awful filth with her hahahaha

There's absolutely no need to include sex or that kind of intimacy during WAM if you don't want to. It's perfectly reasonable to just get messy, solo or with someone else, for the fun and feelings of it, sexy times can come after cleanup, or not at all, entirely depending on what you and your prospective playmate decide you both want.

I wouldn't have sex with anyone I'm not dating, and I've never done WAMmed with anyone I was in a relationship with, but if my partner was up for it, I'd love to try it. Closest I've ever come was shower sex, but I don't really consider that WAM.

All of my WAMming with other people has been superficial and fun. Sex isn't necessary. I've WAMmed with 2 people a few different times, and made it clear to both why I wanted to do it, but I've never asked for anything like that. There's been some nudity but that was because one girl requested it and wanted me to take some pictures for her OnlyFans (There was a LOT of oil involved).

You will find WAM / sploshing is VERY different for a lot of people here.

For some, it is a fetish in the strictest sense where they can't get off without it. For others (like me) it's like icing on the cake and an enhancer to normal sexual activity. Some people enjoy it sexually, but don't want to get messy themselves. Some just want to watch. Some people enjoy it in ways that are tactile or visual but not sexual strictly speaking.

Also, there are a number of models who make videos that don't find WAM sexually appealing but fun or interesting.

All I can say is try it out and see what it does for you.

I've done pie sessions with a good friend who's asexual and enjoys it primarily for the slapstick aspect. We kept it totally PG, well PG-13 since he was willing to pie my bare butt once to so I could get a good pic of that (posted here and actually still one of my favs). We kept our interactions platonic and, even though WAM is definitely a high sexual thing for me, I respected boundaries and had a great time.

Sex isn't a requirement for me and I think a lot of people can still enjoy it that way. Most important is understand what the limits are going in.

Columbusmud, feel free not to answer this if it's too personal a question. Did you ever get aroused (as in have an erection) during any of those sessions with your buddy, and if so, how did you handle it?

I did for much of the time, though I was wearing loose fitting athletic shorts and I'm no pornstar, so it wasn't hugely obvious.

That said, I told him ahead of time that WAM is a huge turn on for me and that would happen, but it didn't mean I was expecting anything.

Good on you people who can keep it PG. I'd be so blue balled.

We've done it but it can be quite dangerous in a shower or bathtub as it can get slippery unless you just use water, but we've managed. We've used a lot of clear and white baby oil and we literally crawl out of the shower to the bed unable to stand safely, we had a rubber air mattress laid on the bed to protect it and went from there.

And BTW, sploshed sex in our outfits feels amazing.

But it does make a mess too...

I enjoyed getting messy for it's own sake even before I hit puberty. There's a thrill there for me that's all its own, so no I don't think sex needs to be a part of the experience. I'd enjoy being pied in the face from male friends for instance.

WAM can also be a massive turn on for me though, but it's all about the context.

I'm both ways. Some things it's full on horndawg, like if I'm at a hotel and get a bunch of stuff to get trashed with. Other times, it's just about play and the experience of getting dirty, no sexual thoughts at all i.e. hiking in the woods, splashing in puddles, then eventually getting fully muddy. So, it's perfectly normal to want to get messy and play without a sexual aspect nor nudity, but AFAIK there's no adult forum for such things.

All the people I have gotten messy with, I've not done anything sexual with. I'm like you in that I only do wam for fun and not for sex. And thankfully every man I've had a messy session with respects that and hasn't tried to pressure me into doing anything other than pies and/or gunge.
Whenever you meet anyone for wam, make it clear to them from the word go that you're not interested in anything sexual (although obviously they shouldn't just assume that anyway) and they will respect that.
Wam should be, above all, about enjoying it the way you want it.

Hi, nice to hear about non-intimate WAM sessions! I totally feel like you. It's difficult to find someone who would do messy things without the intimacy part. I really love to see and receive messy stuff but that's it. Only if I'm already more intimate in general with that person, I like to cuddle in the mess, but that's also it.

Unfortunately here in Germany it's much more duifficult to find anyone (even with intimate motivation) for WAM. Someone like you who would do WAM without the intimacy is nearly impossible for me as a heterosexual man.

But I want to tell you that there are people like me. You will find persons who would give you a good gunging or other messy stuff and just enjoy the look and have platonic fun.