Let's say a 19 year old and a 30 year old meet up for a WAM session together. Would you consider that strange? Would you personally meet with someone with an age completely different than you (assuming you are both legal, of course).

Age is irrelevant for me, but then I only do messy sessions for fun. But still, as long as it's legal and consensual, there's nothing wrong with an age difference.

Not at all, I'm 28 and I'd see no difference in meeting a 18 y/o or a 45 y/o

Ooh, that's an interesting question: intrinsically, no; if you are both of legal age.

In practice, I am cautious about situations where there could be a power differential. That isn't specifically restricted to age- you could apply the same question to introducing someone to gunge for the first time- and I think that the responsibility here lies with the person who is more experienced not to exploit somebody less experienced (also, being older doesn't explicitly make you more experienced- that is just a correlation/ causation thing). Basically, I favour being open, communicative, and establishing clearly what you each want to happen and why. But if the interests are mutually compatible then I don't think an age gap is a problem.

I think there's relatively so few of us (in society as a whole) interested in gunge that when the opportunity to meet up with another guy and get messy together presents itself, I take it!


Not that I hook up a lot, but I think age plays a bigger factor in purely sexual encounters. Not that an age difference is a bad thing (I happen to like older guys) but it does factor into the sexual chemistry in a way that being intimate with a peer doesn't.

Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's not creepy.

My first session was with someone that was maybe 20 years older than me. No regrets. Was very kind and respectful.

Samesies.... this is a uniform rule for me. I'm into poly love and for me, that requires a strong connection because poly love is more than just being attracted to someone or differentiating between what years you were born in - it is trust and love unconditionally. So, to relate this to getting messy I definitely need to have some kind of connection in order for me to let someone cross the boundary and age isn't on the list of exclusions.

Don't get me wrong, I've played with dudes I don't even remember their names (I'm proudly a bit of a slut) but I have only stayed in relationship situations or have shared intimate things like gunge with someone I have a connection with. Otherwise, it won't happen. I have chatted with people here before and have lost interest in getting messy together because we don't have much in common otherwise and for me, chemistry is too important and makes flopping around in a pool of mess much better.

I'm in a relationship with someone I love dearly and he may not be into getting messy - but he said he would be willing to at least try at some it because we love each other. If he hates it - no biggie!! Take a shower and move on. Our relationship permits exploration of anything or anyone as long as we are presented with a harmless and fun situation so bring on the mess!

If I'm sitting at the mall food court watching the passing parade of humanity, generally the person that fills my head with dirty thoughts of either a sexual or messy nature is going to be on the younger side of the scale. A partner to play with is a partner to play with, and many would be welcome, but in the ideal scenario, the pie fight or clothed swim would lead to something sexual, and all things being equal, the person I'm attracted to is more likely to be younger than me than older. That's not to say an older person wouldn't be attractive to me; someone 10 years older than me, attractive and in good shape can be very sexy. But I'm more likely to be attracted to someone 10 (or 20...or 30) years younger.

There has to be some kind of connection. For me it's not even so much about the looks but about the energy that is exchanged during play as cheesy as that sounds. What good is a guy who might look absolutely stunning but is as cold as ice? It depends on how much sex is involved though. Sometimes it can just be nice to feel the sensation of being gunged or enjoying the reactions of someone else. There's something magical about doing things to people and seeing how much they enjoy it. And much the same goes for a situaiton where the tables are turned and I'm on the receiving end. We don't have to do anything explicitly sexual to make the play very sexy for all parties involved.