Whenever I'm buying large quantities of WAM supplies at a retail store, I look for the sullen, bored-looking teenage cashier. The contents of my cart may warrant an eye-roll, but I know that he/she would sooner die than actually ask me about them.

If the only cashier working is one of those cheerful but inquisitive grandmother types, I usually say that I'm buying food for a big work party and mention that I always get stuck with dessert because I can't cook worth a damn. This sometimes results in a 30-second conversation about a salad recipe so simple that even a five-year-old could make it, but that's fine.

Its been a bit of a theme on here recently that we get too hung up on what others think of our fetish, whether its partners, future partners or complete strangers. What we're doing is nothing to be ashamed of.

Having said that, if someone asked in all innocence "What are you doing with all that stuff", I don't think its terribly polite to suprise them with the sexual nature of it. After all, if a friend asks you what you're doing this evening, you would't reply "Having sex with my wife", even if that's your intention! But if someone asked directly "Are you going to have sex in all that custard tonight?", I don't see anything to be ashamed of and would happily say "Yup!"

Enjoy the shopping - the anticipation is part of the fun - and stop worrying what people think. What we're doing is not bad!

Anyone who has seen my sporadic postings knows my girlfriend and have been doing a lot of testing ground stuff with WAM. Probably the only time we really were nervous at the store was the first time we were trying out cream pies.

We'd gotten some advice from that expert of messy pies, Messygirl, and the cart had six large tubs of Cool Whip, seven pre-made pie crusts, and two bottles of chocolate sauce.

Got up to checkout before we really thought about what it might look like. The lady checking us out was a middle-aged black woman. She got through the pie crusts, then through the cool whips, we just sort of looked around and smiled and did our best to be totally inconspicuous (and thus totally suspicious) and she got to the chocolate sauce and bagged it...moooostly. She was just about to set down the second bottle in the bag when she seemed to sort of realize what she'd been bagging, then looked up at us, and we looked back nervously at her.

Finally she said "Lord have mercy..." and put the chocolate in the bag and ran our card and we got out of there riiiiight quick.

The pie session ended up fun though! Sloppy and amateurish, but very fun for both.

When I worked retail, this is exactly how I thought. The job is far too dull to go home and say to a SO, "You're never going to guess what someone bought today!"

Stores like Sam's Club, Costco, and food service stores are your friend. You can buy huge amounts of anything in there and no one bats an eye--that's what the stores are made for!

I hate that BJ's Warehouse (near me) doesn't carry the big cans of pudding anymore...I haven't seen those in person in years, and they seem very expensive to order online.

I stopped by a store to pick up some supplies last week - pudding, whipped cream, and for actual dessert, some chocolate lava cakes because I was in the mood. The cashier (this is at one of the "friendly" stores) says, "Pudding, whipped cream, chocolate cake, you know how to party." I thought "You have no idea", but said "Life's short, eat dessert first."

Even funnier, the woman behind me, said "Pudding? Is that a seasonal item?" and I directed her to where i found it where another cashier went to pick one up for her.

Usually I'm buying enough other stuff that it's not a big deal, everything blends into the cart. The biggest purchase at one time was 8 cans of shaving cream, but the cart was full and the walmart cashiers don't really care.

That said, my girlfriend and I were at a store one afternoon prior to getting messy that night and we had forgotten the pudding; we looked around for it (I was fine with that), but asking two clerks if they had it was a little awkward. (they didn't, we had to make another stop.)

But no, I don't normally get nervous while shopping. (I get nervous sometimes when suggesting it, even though my awesome gf is into it). Like a lot of things, a lot of people's reactions to something is based on how you're reacting. Act like it's no big deal, and it won't be.

I don't avoid situations like that, but if it's outside a sexual or erotic context, it doesn't do anything for me.

I definitely don't "accidentally on purpose" do anything unless it's pretty well known ahead of time how it will be taken (sometimes when getting dessert for example, my gf and I will do a bit of "whoops, spilled the chocolate syrup" type flirtation stuff.)

If you have BJ's, you might have GFS - and they have the biggest variety of the big cans of pudding (plus several other very WAM-friendly products) you're likely to find.

www.gfsmarketplace.com

This seems to come up every now and then here - as others have said, most of the time no-one cares what you're buying, they're just glad you're buying it from their store and thus ensuring their job security by keeping them in business.

When we first started, we used to do one or two scenes at a time. But nowadays we'll usually have people over for a weekend and do a whole bunch of shoots back to back, which means buying supplies in bulk just beforehand - I've often taken the van round every major ASDA and Tesco in Leeds and Bradford (and occasionally down to Wakefield too), usually at about 2am to 4am when the roads and shops are quiet. The manned checkouts are all closed at those times but there's normally someone overseeing the self-checkout who can scan things through in bulk (so 24 x item, instead of having to scan 24 individual cans one by one), and I'm regularly getting 24 or 48 cans of custard, same of rice pudding, 12 large and 24 small pots of Devon Dream (that stuff was made for wammers - flows and looks like cream, tastes like custard, and can be stored at room temperature), 12 flan bases, 8 cans of squirty cream, and usually clearing each supermarket out of its entire shelved stock in the process. Never had a problem.

I get the odd "are you having a party" but most of the time they seem to assume I'm a caterer - who else would buy 48 cans of Tesco Value custard in one go? If anyone does ask I usually just say "just stocking up", without specifying what for.

Even having a bunch of womens swimsuits, plus 60 cans of gunge (and nothing else) in the trolley doesn't seem to phase anyone, they just scan it all. I've never worked in a supermarket but I suspect after a while everything just merges into a massive blur of "items", and the only bit you actually see is the barcode, the rest becomes completely automatic.

I do sometimes get a little embarrassed when I'm in a store buying chocolate syrup for my lady and I to use (usually two 3-lb "family sized" bottles!). Do I just tell the shop clerk, "I really love ice cream sundaes!"
And I have gotten self-conscious at public WAM events. Not so much because it's happening, but because of the photos I'm taking!