Curious to know people's thoughts on what role amount of experience in getting messy has in the dynamic of messy sessions or meetups. Do people feel more or less inclined to engage in getting messy with someone who is significantly more experienced than they are (eg: a well-known WAM model) vs a casual meetup with someone a bit more low-key?
This question could also be looked at from the other direction: does a messy session host have any preference for experienced wammers vs someone who hasn't gotten messy before?
Messywolf2346 said: Curious to know people's thoughts on what role amount of experience in getting messy has in the dynamic of messy sessions or meetups. Do people feel more or less inclined to engage in getting messy with someone who is significantly more experienced than they are (eg: a well-known WAM model) vs a casual meetup with someone a bit more low-key?
This question could also be looked at from the other direction: does a messy session host have any preference for experienced wammers vs someone who hasn't gotten messy before?
I feel the answer to this lies far less in the "messy experience" of the people involved, and how well you know each other / how comfortable you are with each other. I've only had two sessions with people (other than my exwife). I was a lot more hesitant in what I did with the first one because didn't know the person as well. The second one was with someone I've known for several years and talk with regularly and her friend who I also know, but to a lesser extent.
So, the fact that we knew each other fairly well made the experience a lot more relaxed and fun because there wasn't really any worry or either end.
Both of those sessions were with people who I would consider VERY experienced with WAM, considerably more than me.
I think there's really two different questions there: paid vs unpaid, and how much experience.
E.g. if you had a bet with a friend about who will win the Superbowl, you might say "loser gets a pie in the face", but "loser get 20 pies and 5 buckets of gunge" might seem excessive. On the other hand, if you book a session with a professional WAM model, you'd probably expect there to be more than 1 pie involved.
I think the main advantage of experience is that each person will know what they like (or don't like), which means you can agree on things upfront and be confident that you'll both enjoy it.
My first ever messy meeting was with a gunge veteran, but we'd been chatting for months before we finally met up. So, in our case, we established a good friendship before we met up to do anything messy and the fact that he was already a well experience gunger was just a bonus. It really all comes down to your relationships with who you get messy with and, if they happen to be experienced in the world of wam, then even better.
I like 'initiating' new people into the experience. You start slowly and build up and see how far you can go - there's the added intrigue as to if they are going to love it, hate it or be .
If they love it, I've probably found myself a new playmate!
Catching up with more experience WAMmers is good, because they know what they like doing and what I like doing. You can also expand into role play, fantasy stuff too
Messywolf2346 said: Curious to know people's thoughts on what role amount of experience in getting messy has in the dynamic of messy sessions or meetups. Do people feel more or less inclined to engage in getting messy with someone who is significantly more experienced than they are (eg: a well-known WAM model) vs a casual meetup with someone a bit more low-key?
This question could also be looked at from the other direction: does a messy session host have any preference for experienced wammers vs someone who hasn't gotten messy before?
I much prefer virgin wammers. Their first-time reactions can be priceless! The only time I enjoy a veteran wammer is in a scene with a veteran and a virgin where the veteran talks about their past experiences, because it really increases the tension and the anticipation for that first pie hit or slime dump on the virgin.
Messywolf2346 said: Curious to know people's thoughts on what role amount of experience in getting messy has in the dynamic of messy sessions or meetups. Do people feel more or less inclined to engage in getting messy with someone who is significantly more experienced than they are (eg: a well-known WAM model) vs a casual meetup with someone a bit more low-key?
This question could also be looked at from the other direction: does a messy session host have any preference for experienced wammers vs someone who hasn't gotten messy before?
So far many of my experiences are somewhat planned but low key I focus on the process and less on the outcome which makes it hard to capture because than I get self conscious
Experience tends to make things easier as far as deciding what to do and how and also the aftermath is concerned. The most important thing though is that someone knows what they want and fully commit to it. Too much hesitation ruins the flow (not talking about playful hesitation here which can heighten the sensation). It's a little like driving a car: It can be fun if you don't have to think about all the details and can operate more or less on auto pilot. But if you keep thinking about how to work the transmission or something you are completely stressed out in no time. Another very important quality is empathy: What good is all the experience in the world if you are unable to pick up on what your partner needs in order to enjoy the session to the fullest? To summarize: I think that commitment and empathy are far more important than experience.
I've only had like 3 properly messy sessions with other people, and they were WAM virgins...and in truth not that much into it really, so most of my activity has been online. Through sites like this one and GetDare, it's been interesting to know the range of things that people like to do with mess and for sure I've been inspired a lot with the stories shared and roleplays I've done.
Over time you realise it's actually a very versatile fetish, with experience for sure you can make things more interesting, be more accomplished at dishing it out and also know better which substances are good for what...not to mention gaining safety and cleaning tips.
I would actually be keen to splosh with someone more experienced, at least then you know they are into it and will enjoy the session and you can take things a little further than with someone you are introducing to the scene!