How do you manage when your partner isn't into WAM? My partner won't indulge in the WAM kink. She'll occasionally pull me in the bath or shower while I'm fully clothed which I love. But I'd love to see her get wet or messy clothed too.
The short answer, for me, is with a great deal of sneaking about getting wet without her, chatting on here with other people in the same predicament, and occasionally meeting up with others.
Happy to chat if you want to DM me, or reach on on Telegram. (I'm isthisob there).
There is no easy answer here, in my opinion. I was with my partner for thirty years, and my WAM fetish was explicitly clear from day one (almost). She did play along, sometimes, but it was never her thing. The thing is, "Fun is not Fun if it is not Fun for everyone," We did have fun in our early years, but as the other realities of family life gained prominence, my day dreams retreated further and further away. Sad but true. I've been on my own now for five years and these have been the best years of my life. And, "The Best is Yet To Come!" Peter
Each situation is different. How much of a problem is it for you that she's not into it? Do you WAM solo? Is she happy for you to WAM solo? If yes, how often? Everyone should be given the space to enjoy their own hobbies after all. Have you had a conversation around WAM with others?
The context changes the specific advice in our replies. But the underlying principle is simple. Find a way to enjoy your interests where all parties are happy or at least content.
messlovingswitch said: Each situation is different. How much of a problem is it for you that she's not into it? Do you WAM solo? Is she happy for you to WAM solo? If yes, how often? Everyone should be given the space to enjoy their own hobbies after all. Have you had a conversation around WAM with others?
The context changes the specific advice in our replies. But the underlying principle is simple. Find a way to enjoy your interests where all parties are happy or at least content.
It's a bit of a downer she's not into it. She will on occasion happily pull me to get wet with her while she's naked. I'd love to gunge her but she's not into it. I do WAM solo but I don't think she knows I do it even would like the idea.
She definitely wouldn't agree to me meeting others for WAM for sure
The short answer, for me, is with a great deal of sneaking about getting wet without her, chatting on here with other people in the same predicament, and occasionally meeting up with others.
Happy to chat if you want to DM me, or reach on on Telegram. (I'm isthisob there).
That's it for me too. The sneaking around and chatting and solo fun. But WAM is my passion and my escape from reality so it's becoming part of me.
Can't beat a relaxing soaking after a long day or a custard shower to unwind.
My partner although having tried it once just isn't interested and often makes a stupid comments about it, making out I'm weird or sad for having a fetish for getting messy or muddy in gear, although he knows there isn't anything dangerous or sexual about it. It does make having some me time difficult as I can't just use the bath without him wanting to come in or go somewhere without hundreds of awkward questions.
Thankfully I have a small circle of friends who secretly also enjoy the wet and messy slapstick scene, my partner thinks are just members of a outdoor walking group but little does he know what we get up to behind closed doors.
i do it when ever i can when i have the house free, its my kink / enjoyment , my partners knows it, but doesn't have interest, which is ok i would never push it on her we have our fun , but mine will always be mine.
Love you, too
