Those of us that aren't douchebag fuckbois are generally the polar opposite and care too much what others think. Personally, I'm terrified of coming across as a creep. And I feel like I do, because when I DO try and strike up a conversation or something with someone, I usually get the nervous laugh or they wont' make eye contact.
Its tough being a guy on the dating scene anymore.
We have to be confidant and be the pursuer that approaches. BUT if we're too forward or say the wrong thing, then we're misogynist sexist pigs or creeps...not sure which is worse honestly.
I understand why, I really do...I'm just sad and tired of being seen as a possible rapist...
I'm in a relationship, but before I was... All of The above!! (and I wasn't particularily on the dating scene in any way shape or form when I was single)
I'm about the same age as Rich but I never felt like a freak -- I just assumed I was right and there was something wrong with everybody else because they didn't get turned on by muddy girls. Discovering mud porn on the internet was a big Nikki Finke "TOLDJA!" moment.
Of course, women still won't touch me with a ten-foot pole, but that's just because I'm a raging douchebag.
HappyCamper said: I used to be like that, but now I've decided that anyone who doesn't like me or my interests can stab themselves in the eye with a turd.
HappyCamper said: I used to be like that, but now I've decided that anyone who doesn't like me or my interests can stab themselves in the eye with a turd.
Like ... a dried-out turd? Because otherwise....
I would assume so,yes.
Actually, I stole it from a metal band named Strapping Young Lad....the singer ends every performance with "Goodnight! Now go stab yourself in the eye with a turd!".
SStuff said: Not gonna lie. It was tough before the Internet. But that said, WAM also consumed a LOT less of my life, simply because... well.... There wasn't much there to be consumed with. All things considered, not sure I'm entirely better off than I was at age 18, honestly...
Yes (at the risk of it becoming the Monty Python "You think you had it tough...?" sketch). I agree, I think it was a lot easier in many ways. There were frustrations - but now there's too much choice, too many expectations both ways. It's so complicated. And speaking as a parent, young adults now not only face expectations of conformity - but even how to conform within non-conformity - the mind boggling protocols of making statements and declarations to their piers about their gender preferences and sexuality as it moves on from week to week.
In so many ways I feel I have increasingly less in common with an ever greater number of 'WAM' fetishists as the years advance.
SStuff said: Dating myself a bit, but those of you who have known about WAM and the UMD from an early age.... You have NO idea what "feeling like a freak" really means.
Imagine a world with no Internet... No websites about WAM or "sploshing"... No producers making videos catering to your specific fetish... and certainly not a board like this, with thousands of people discussing the minute details of said fetish daily.
Imagine that, long before you had anything resembling "sexual feelings" towards girls, you still got "excited" when you saw Maria or Linda from Sesame Street get hit with a pie or splashed with water... while seeing the same thing happen to Bob or Luis or David scared you a bit. Imagine growing up thinking that you were the only person on Earth who got turned on watching a girl on a stupid sitcom or gameshow get pied or slimed, and how you felt embarrassed taping NICK shows long after you were out of the target age, simply because that was literally the only way you were gonna see females get messy. You certainly weren't gonna "suggest" to the girls at school that it would be "funny" to see them get hit with a pie, and you certainly weren't gonna tell any of your family or friends about this "thing" that was wrong with you. (Because, again, you had no idea this was a fetish, or even what a fetish WAS, because, again... No Internet.)
So imagine feeling like the only one on Earth with these urges... until age 22, when you stumble (and I mean literally "stumble," like 20 pages into "pie in the face" searches on AltaVista) upon the MessyFun site and your whole world opens up.
Not gonna lie. It was tough before the Internet. But that said, WAM also consumed a LOT less of my life, simply because... well.... There wasn't much there to be consumed with. All things considered, not sure I'm entirely better off than I was at age 18, honestly...
This is what it feels like when doves cry
Seriously, Rich, this sounds EXACTLY what I went through from the early 1970s (born in 1968) until the early 1990s when I also stumbled onto a Messy Fun website. I can't stress enough how weird it felt to think, "I have to be the only person in the world who gets turned on by a girl being hit in the face with a pie!" I mean , WTF?
In short, OP. You are a freak -- but we are all freaks here.
SStuff said: Imagine that, long before you had anything resembling "sexual feelings" towards girls, you still got "excited" when you saw Maria or Linda from Sesame Street get hit with a pie or splashed with water... while seeing the same thing happen to Bob or Luis or David scared you a bit.
In short, OP. You are a freak
Yeah I agree that this person must be to get turned on by a kids show like Sesame Street! And to the characters of the gender that they do not even like
Regis said: Yeah, well, I had to walk five miles in the snow each way just to get my hands on ONE wam scene!
(Like, literally, I'm sure I walked through the snow to rent VHS tapes to jerk off to.)
Where did you even get them because I do not know of ANY that are for sale out in the regular public?!?!?
Regis said: Yeah, well, I had to walk five miles in the snow each way just to get my hands on ONE wam scene!
(Like, literally, I'm sure I walked through the snow to rent VHS tapes to jerk off to.)
Where did you even get them because I do not know of ANY that are for sale out in the regular public?!?!?
We're talking mainstream scenes here! Closest you could get to a wam video in a video rental store was a messy wrestling tape, and even those were hard as hell to find.
phoenixazpieguy said: Something i've tried as a possible ice-breaker is i had a custom t-shirt made reading "Mad Pie Thrower" which i've worn to bars/social gatherings hoping i might meet someone genuinely curious/interested. Never had any luck but maybe it might work better for others.
I sometimes think about going out in this shirt and seeing what comes about if it.