I've had luck. I know a couple of guys who I just talk with occasionally about WAM stuff, and I've met up with a girl for a few WAM sessions when I had a job where I traveled a ton. I also met another girl on Fetlife who I do role play chats with.

There are kinky women out there, some on this site, but a lot of them keep a very low profile. I'm pretty sure every woman who posts on here and every other fetish site gets absolutely hounded and spammed by horny dudes with no impulse control. It helps to talk to people like they're normal people and you're just going out to get drinks or something.