Hi all,
Apologies as probably it may have been asked many times, i'm unsure.

Anyhow, recently proposed to girlfriend, thus has now become my fiance. She hasn't a clue about the wam interest, and was wondering if anyone has successfully converted their partners, and do they have tips?

It all depends how open your relationship is and how experimental you both are.

If you live in a vanilla relationship bringing up your fetish could be quite difficult. She may think you have been hiding this from her.

Its hard bringing it up in a relationship but the earlier the better

Get a really big pie and push it in her face If she laughs she is a keeper, if not break it off now and look for a better one.

Phil

Do it easily digestible stages. I got my girlfriend of a few years ago into it by starting with baby oil, rubbed all over her, the I suggested she kept my favourite French maids uniform on while I soaked it in the oil (I'd already got her to indulge my dressing up fetish) she loved the feel of the tight, black shiny outfit clinging to her, then I progressed to shaving foam, which she loved too...

The best thing to do is to just dive into it, none of this easing piecemeal stuff. Invite her over, tell her there is a big surprise and get her to close her eyes, be blindfolded and sit in a chair. When compromised like this, quickly use duct tape to secure her in the chair. You might want to also gag her somehow if she's loud or you have nosy neighbors.

Now, turn off the lights and remove her blindfold. To her back, remove your clothing and put on a special red devil mask. Creepily dance into her range of vision, take like a dangerous looking butcher knife and make quasi threats with it. She won't know what's up, trust me. At this point, put the knife down and take a bucket of some kind of Nickelodeon gak and dump it on her. She'll be so relieved that it's not like pig's blood or you're not stabbing her, that she'll instantly be Okay with having slime dumped on her from this moment on. So, at that point do what you like.

What Phil said! Seriously though I wouldn't over explain it or think too much about it. If you make it weird, then it will always be weird. I would just go for it, make it fun, make it light hearted and make it sensual. The first time the wife and I did anything WAM related, I didn't ask her or talk to her about it. We were dating at the time, she was at work and when she came home I had an inflatable kiddy pool and a couple big bottles of baby oil standing by. When she walked through the door I stripped her down and led her to the room with the pool in it, she just laughed and got right in. We wrestled, rolled around and fucked in that pool of oil for what seemed like hours. We've done the same thing with pudding and mud and we've had a couple naked pie fights and even used a sheet cake during sex. We've talked about the fetish, but years after I introduced her to it all. I always just plan it and she has fun with it. But that's me and my girl. Phil may seem like he is joking with what he says above, but he has a point. This is a harmless fetish....if she's not cool enough to go along with it (which is fine, it's not for everyone), then how will this effect you and your relationship later? Just some thoughts, sorry to ramble!

I literally just told my latest partner. This was on OkCupid on our first conversation online. I have in my bio that "I have a fetish that's important to me, please ask me about it", and she did, I answered. The most apprehension she had was that a lot of stuff people used was not vegan, so I pointed out that stuff that a vegan could *theoretically* use.

On our second date she volunteered to be gunged (I didn't even bring it up, I certainly didn't want here to feel pressured to do anything), and well I had a small amount so we tried that and although she doesn't share the fetish (she also wouldn't get anything out of gunging me unfortunately), she enjoyed it. So I got some more which we used the next time and yeah it really was worth telling her straight away.

With your fiance, I'd suggest doing something similar, somehow letting it slip you have a fetish and then if she's curious, she'll ask about it.

With my gf, I gradually chipped away at exposing my fetish. Then, I bribed her to partake. Everyone has a price.

I've always been open about it. Tell them, then if they want to try it/are willing to try it, start small, see how they enjoy it, go from there.

WAM is a fun and harmless fetish and nothing to be embarrassed about. Be honest and upfront about what turns you on and why. Be forgiving and patient with her and follow her lead on what she's comfortable with.

Make it sexy and fun and show how much you appreciate and enjoy that she wants to engage and participate with you, even if it's small steps at first. Kiss her and pull her into a clothed shower, it will feel playful and naughty. Blindfold her and pour warm cake batter into her panties while you play with her, the sensation and surprise will almost certainly drive her wild. Tease her with a pie in the face or a bucket of slime until the anticipation turns into an erotic thrill and she's begging for it. I always say this but on a purely tactile level, I think anyone could get enjoyment from WAM, it feels amazing and extremely sexy and naughty.

I wrote a book you might find helpful. I would also suggest finding out what things she is into. Many people have a kink flag they keep hidden away. Give her an excuse to fly it. You being open to her desires is a good and healthy way to open up an opportunity for you to share your kink.

https://www.amazon.com/SPLAT-Introduction-Sploshing-Food-Play-ebook/dp/B07JNHGHY2

I get it, your order this book with a giant pie on the cover with a title like that ("How to get your partner into your sexual kink" or whatever it was...) and when it shows up at your house, your partner sees the cover and immediately understands what you're into.

Very clever

Yes...that's exactly what I said

What I've said in the past is it helps you understand ways you can share your kink, and at the same time, because not everyone is stellar at communicating something so intimate, having a book offers something your partner can read so they can understand as well. I'm not saying buy my book and a pie and leave both in the fridge and see what happens.

I've never managed it. Keep those two areas of my life in separate boxes. Far from ideal, but the best I've ever managed.

After kissing her, or hugging her, or having a lovely night with her, when she seems to be completely in love with you, ask her if she would be able to give you a present... (your birthday or Valentine's day are good days for it).
Then say that you would like to do something to her that would make you very happy, that would show you how big is her love for you...
If she say yes... Go slow. Don't start with a ton of gunge on her. Start with chantilly in her face.
Say that you would get very turned on by the taste of the chantilly in her skin.
Ask her if she loves you enough to put a very elegant and charming cloth, that would make her very, very beautiful, and then let you apply chantilly in her pretty and maked up face.
It worked with me. If she really loves you, she will accept to do that.

Can we make this sticky? Goddamn funniest thing I've read in a long time. Enigmahood is right, she'll be coming and coming!

My experience is pretty close to this, so excuse me if I rabbit on a bit - I hope some of it will be helpful, do ignore if not. I didn't tell my now wife until we had been together a few years and she was already my fiance. There are two parts to this as I see it - the telling, and the fact you haven't told her before now.

As far as the telling goes, DON'T do what I did and make a really hig deal out of it, as if I had some deep dark secret that I was really ashamed of. If at all possible keep it light while still being clear what it is that turns you on and what you'd like to do. Of course, if she proves willing to give it a try, start small(ish) and go at her pace.

Like I was, you're already in the situation of having made a big commitment to this girl. I don't know about you, but I had decided this was my soulmate regardless of how she reacted to my telling her about wam. So if she freaks out or proves resistant my biggest advice would be to keep talking. She loves you so if she's resistant there will be a reason, and it won't just be because she can't be bothered. Keep talking, especially working to understand her point of view and feelings, and any initial reluctance need not be the end of the matter.

Lastly, in my own situation, for my then fiance the biggest issue in the whole process of telling her was that I hadn't told her earlier - it didn't really freak her out that I wanted to pour a bucket of custard over her head, it did freak her out that I had been hiding that fact from her. Now this may not be an issue for you - I have heard people on here say things like 'I finally told my wife of 10 years, and she was totally cool with it - ran straight out to the grocery store and bought pies!' However, if this does prove a sticking point (she may be thinking, 'If he hasn't told me this, what else hasn't he told me?') then again I would say the key is to keep talking and communicating and be patient.

My story has a happy ending - we went on to wam together and still do on the rare occasions when work and family allow. My wife has fun with it, and enjoys the way it turns me on, even though it's still not her kink. I'm confident that, with the right approach, things will be the same, or even better, for you. Go for it, and good luck

Mate. Have had my share of nightmares trying to introduce this. I was lucky enough to actually find someone who is open minded enough to give certain aspects of it a try.
I think the key is to be honest and to try to find some middle ground.
She needs to know how you fantasize about her but you don't have to go full on bull at a gate with her, find some middle ground that turns you both on and build on that