I'm brand new here, was introduced by my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years and told me about his enjoyment for seeing women pied in the face about a year ago. I enjoy it and am wondering what does everyone like about it? For me, at first it sounded like something fun and exciting as I've never had a pie thrown in my face, then I really like how it makes my boyfriend excited. I guess I'm just trying to understand it more as I don't have anyone but my bf to talk to about it. Thanks!

Welcome. Thanks for joining and thanks for asking. Your boyfriend is a lucky guy. There are a few of us on the forum who are just as lucky. My wife of 17 years has indulged my peculiar interests from the beginning. After plying me with a bottle of Grey Goose one night she told me to "do whatever you want to me", so I went and grabbed a couple cans of shaving cream from the bathroom and went to town. After seeing how excited that got me, the next night I made a few pies and pushed those in her face. Cake batter shortly after that (like the slime from Nickelodeon) and she's been the bearer of my dirty secret ever since.

I've known since I was very young that seeing beautiful women get messy was a different sort of exciting for me, especially pies and gooey stuff being poured over a woman's head. I know that sounds oddly specific - and it is - but hang around for a bit and you'll see why it's considered normal here.

I thought I'd never find a woman to indulge these fantasies of mine so you can imagine my surprise and gratitude when my wife pushed me to admit my fetish and then indulged me so readily. Like you, it's not her thing but my excitement drives hers and so it makes an interesting feedback loop. The more into it she gets the more excited I get, the more excited I get the more excited she gets, etc. To the point she's taken to enjoying certain types of pies and slime if we play act a certain way. It's fun for us. A nice break from the boredom.

It's not a humiliation thing for me, not in the usual sense. Comeuppance is fun but for role playing. The biggest turn-on for me is the trust. It took a lot for me to open up, and every time she closes her eyes and lets me put a pie in her face or start pouring cake batter over her head, I'm reminded of that trust and it drives me absolutely crazy with arousal. And in truth, it really does give her the control over me that she thinks it does.

It's a lot of deep back-and-forth, really deep connection for us. Might sound absurd considering what it looks like at first glance, but the implications run deep and have a lot to do with why our relationship has survived the things it has.

Welcome again, and thank you for your genuine interest in this thing of ours.

Welcome to the party! I've been with my hub 25 years. He told me long ago about it and at first I just thought it was a passing phase because I really didn't understand the different levels of pleasure associated with it for him and now for me.

I too enjoy the excitment it brings him, but the more we did it the more it excited me. My guy loves getting pied by females, especially if he's undressed. I enjoy seeing him aroused and being in charge of his pleasure, if that makes sense. I understand his enjoyment of being embarrassed by the situation.

As for me, seeing him with a pie in his face became a massive turn on for me as well. Something I never gave much thought too. Eventually that led to us recording and sharing all of his fantasy pie situations, ones he's had since he was a kid. We realize that our fun isn't everyone's cup of tea, but we made our recordings for us, based on what we like first and foremost.

Enjoy yourselves is the best advice I can give you. Again, welcome to a fun, exciting world!

Thanks for your responses! I love hearing about how people got into it and what they like about it. When we first did it was exciting but not in a sexual way but the more I do it the sexier I feel when I get pied. I know it sounds weird but the way he looks at me and tells me how attractive I look makes me feel sexy which makes it sexy and fun for me.

Welcome to the magical mystery world!

Pies can be fun, sweet, dirty, and sometimes sexy. You should start off slow at first, then push for more once you're both comfortable.

I hope you two never stop having fun, and thanks for joining UMD.

Welcome to umd! My girlfriend of a few years ago was into being pied in the face, down her dress and up her skirt! She also indulged my dress up fetish by wearing French maid/nurse/schoolgirl outfits with heels.

Enjoy, its fun and sexy

TheDude18's reply is really spot on, I think. For couples anyway, he really nails the whole idea.
For me, I've been lucky to have had several "partners" be willing for me to pie them. Sometimes I was very invested and I was a little hesitant to fess up, others less so and it was no biggie for me. Either way, one thing I have found is, that for people without this kink it doesn't make a lot of sense, but it is pretty innocent so women(in my case) tend to be willing to give it a go. Some of the women really understood it after the first time and got into it afterwards.
My current GF is pretty down with it, but she has specific tastes. She actually either makes her own icing to use, or likes mashed potatoes!
My ex-w was always OK with shaving cream.
Some other volunteers went with pudding and cool whip, one actually wanted a real bakery pie(a brazilian woman I met in Spain- she was all in), and a few others just good old fashioned SC. I was surprised how often, when I brought it up, women said, "Oh, I would do that!"
Role playing is fun(the current GF once dressed as a maid and got punished with a pie for not really cleaning my house)...so there are all kinds of things you can do as you two grow with it.
If you're OK with play acting, pied for losing a game show, maybe pied as revenge(playful) for having done something wrong, or such.
Sometimes my GF will just make up a fictitious story about a time she got hit in the face with a pie(at a charity event, or some mean girl from school at a party)just to get me worked up.
There is tons of fun to be had if you're creative and have an open mind.
I could go on forever, but I think this was long enough.

To go off of this, I think it has something to do with the innocent nature of the fetish itself. I have told and pied almost every one of my girlfriends up to my wife. Almost all of them have been into it. Not so much because it turned them on, but because how much it turned me on.

My personal policy was always I wouldn't tell a girlfriend until I had sex with them. When I started dating my wife, I actually broke my rule bc we were long distance for a bit and sex wasn't coming until later. I remember telling her I had a fetish, but wouldn't specify. When I finally told her, she was excited and relieved. She mainly was afraid that my fetish would be something on the more horrifying side. And I think that kinda comes with the label of fetish. A fetish can be anything, but people assume to worst and shame fetishes if they're personally not into it.

When the term fetish is brought up, it could be anything. But when this fetish is revealed for what it is, I think it's met with relief because overall, it's just fun.