Hi, been into the wam kink for 20 years now, but never really did it. Or had any real prospects. I exchanged pies with an ex once over 10 years ago but it wasn't satisfying and we never talked about it again.

I first went to the local kink club about 3 months ago, it's a weird entry to a weird culture, but I was able to be very open about the messy kink and embraced, though nobody really expressed interest in that kink. Or more accurately, people expressed a LOT of interest in it in a loving way, but when it came time to discuss a scene... the barrier I kept encountering is that it's a lot of prep and breakdown for an interesting fun memorable scene... but when you think about all that work and if it's really your cup of tea, a lot of people didn't really want to pull the trigger. Being able to be open was a pretty critical element that had to be developed there though.

And it is a lot of work, I get that deference, it's a fucking inconvenient kink. Jesus I wish I was just into getting pegged, things would be so much simpler...

I developed a relationship with a play partner, and we exchanged some ass kickings as we're both also switches. I thought she declined the messy play early on, but for whatever reason, one night when we're negotiating a scene things developed that way. She has some theater personas that she expresses her kink with, though never actually in a scene before that night. One is a chaotic femme being, I guess I'd say a demonic awards show presenter vibe? In her words "that being is curious and experimental about new and different kinks." Long story short after her beating the shit out of me for a while she pied me then I smeared it in her face and body.

It's not so much the act of being or getting someone messy that I'm seeking, not a sensory element, or humiliation, punishment, revenge, sexual touch, it's more of an emotional state or vibe. I'm chasing this inner child play, this freeness and openness, both a disconnectedness and hyperconnectedness at the same time. I knew that going in, though. The fucking wild thing isn't just that she really enjoyed getting messy and regretted not getting a second pie, it's that she GOT that same inner child play that I was seeking. She kind of felt it herself, and now wants to chase it again.

We're negotiating another messy scene, probably two scenes out, it might be awhile. But that's going to be a good time. She is esctatic about the thought of being made messy and especially being covered in sprinkles at the end.

Nice man! Glad to hear a positive story, they don't always happen, glad to hear someone out there got a win

Btw when I say positive stories don't always happen, I'm just speaking in general, and day to day life, I didn't mean it about wam specifically, just wanted to say that in case anyone took it the wrong way or something

Yeah, I've had some luck with a handful of messy scenes since getting into the general kink community a half dozen years or so ago. I didn't JUST start attending kink events to look for messy play, as I have other kinky interests, but it did end up helping find a handful of messy opportunities that have been lots of fun.

But yeah, it's an interesting combination. The general kink community is happy to welcome you in and accept and talk about the kink of sploshing. But the logistics of it can make it quite challenging. Setup and cleanup makes it very hard to coordinate at kink clubs/dungeons. So a lot of it ends up being talk, or at least just sharing of stories. Finding not just somebody interested in doing it, but a time and location that will work, can be a tough nut to crack. But eventually, the stars can occasionally align. I've had a couple lucky experiences with ladies who had never tried sploshing before, but liked to try new things and thought it sounded wild and fun. I particularly enjoy ones who are experiencing it for the first time. Makes for very fun reactions.

Anyway, glad to hear somebody else had some luck with it. Hopefully future sessions will work out for you and be lots of fun.

Fantastic story - congratulations! This is also a great answer for a lot of those threads asking "how do I find someone"? Getting to know people, forming good and communicative kink connections, and being open to the ways WAM *might* occupy a Venn diagram between what the two of you get out of things.

And I absolutely "get" the inner child thing... It's not necessarily the single main part of my WAM kink but I do think it's some kind of Triforce together with sensuality and humiliation. Any given scene or vibe might fall towards different regions of that triangle (or change as it goes along)... Anyway, this all seems like good stuff for people to reflect on, as they share their own versions of WAM with the world of kinky folk generally. Thanks for sharing!

I've had a total of 4 messy sessions in my life (two with my ex wife who hated it). The other two were with members/models here. They were...well beyond my expectations and absolutely marvelous at the time.

But I've come to realize something with them. In my particular case they leave me feeling hollow, empty, and depressed because while they are enjoyable, they were with people I will never see again. Who would have thought that aftercare is something I strongly need in any kind of sensual or sexual engagement.

What I really need is a loving relationship, with the WAM as secondary.

So yeah "results may vary" is the understatement of a lifetime with actually engaging in kink play with someone. I have a feeling it would be a lot more enjoyable if I either did it with a loving partner, or separately with the blessing of a loving partner I can come back home to.