After a ten year relationship with my wife we are calling it quits. Apparently it is exceptable for you're spouse to cheat on you twice in a 4 year span. It doesn't matter I have learned to live with her decision and I will be moving on with my life. Most people go through a mid life crisis and buy something like a new car outfit motorcycle. I on the other hand will be building the white bedroom from the champagne scene in tommy. I have allready bought the land and have talked to a interior decorator. I know this sounds crazy but its something I've wanted to do since I was a small child.
It's good to know yourself and what you want. Sometimes I think the 'idea' of being married and the 'reality' of being married get confused. As someone thinking about getting married, it's stories like these that make me pause and reflect on said thoughts.
The sad thing was I loved my wife I supported her did everything for her and it still wasn't enough. I never judged her on anything she was into but she had no problems judging me on a monthly basis because of my sploshing fetish. I took her on a trip to europe bought her a car and she still wouldn't entertain the idea of getting in a roomfull of bubbles. Sorry if I'm venting too much its just been a little stressful for awhile with no outlet to vent.
I suspect the reason this happens so much is because so many people rush into getting married. I say live with the person for 3-4 years, and see if they do anything that's a deal-breaker before you say yes. For me, judgement of my WAM interest would be almost as much a deal-breaker as cheating, and I wouldn't commit to anyone who showed signs of either. Sorry to pontificate....been seeing a lot of divorce and domestic problems in my neighborhood. I don't care to know their business, but they are so loud I can't avoid it.
Love you, too
