So I was chatting with someone tonight and I just realized how much I have changed since the first time I got messy (as a fetish) to where I am now. Even going from my first photo session to my latest I notice a huge difference. I couldn't help but think, how is what I wanted from mess then different from what I want from it now. Has anyone else noticed that kind of change in themselves?

Like anything.. always chasing the next biggest and best idea. Used to just be a bottle of chocolate... Now its multiple cakes and puddings and you name it...

I've changed a lot from getting myself messy, to getting messy with someone, and now I prefer to just get someone else messy.

There is a never ending search for novelty.

Well I think it is just a normal think that we would change things and explore more things inside of this beautiful fetish and maybe we do that without realising that but you will always search for new things to improve or enjoy

Definitely. When I first discovered this fetish it was something that I just naturally fell into. I felt always attracted to messy substances and would even look up stuff about mud covered people long before I even knew what a fetish was. After I entered college I started exploring it more on a personal level before slowly involving other people, mainly with paint since that was always the easiest way I felt like to introduce someone to. Then I eventually found a photo partner who I would work with on WAM related projects. We never did anything physical together, but we created photo art constructed around themes like paint, chocolate, and mud. Then fast forward several years and now even though I'm single, I've found a couple of individuals to be WAM play partners with and we enjoy the fetish on a friends with benefits type of level. They're amazing friends and I always enjoy spending time with them both in and out of WAM activities. Funny enough without WAM we probably never would have all even met each other since it was how we started talking haha. Besides for having a couple of play partners for it now, I also find myself enjoying being a model for WAM content as well as intimate play. It's definitely been something that's massively evolved for me over the years in a really great way.

I feel like since I first started going out with a camera and sharing my experiences with people (which was 2018), the basics of what I want haven't changed but I have got bolder and less tentative about it. I'm still into getting muddy above all, but before that it used to be an opportunistic thing that I would do if I happened to be somewhere quiet and muddy where no-one would notice.
If someone had pointed out to me a decade ago that I could just seek out and visit all these places with great mud as a regular part of my life and not have to feel bad about it, I think I would have been incredulous. So that feels like a positive change.

Initially, it was a bucket of gunge or pudding and enjoying the humiliation of it was what I enjoyed initally. It's since helped me come out as queer, and can't imagine not doing it with another man nowadays.

Absolutely! What used to be a "the bigger the better" approach to mess has since been cut down to "we'll just have you sit on pie and spread a little pudding on your body to add to that pie". It's so much easier to clean up after and just as much of a turn on. We leave the huge messes to the models and producers now.

Mainly just that in the beginning when I was a kid, getting messy on my own was amazing! But once I discovered sexuality and seeing women get messy, or even just wet, I found doing it on my own or by myself just didn't really do much for me anymore. It's something I need to share with a partner to enjoy anymore.

Other than that, it's just realizing what things I like or want to try and which ones I'm not interested in.