i [24,M] just joined this network after living 12 years with my WAM fetish and being too shy I wondered how to find a woman to get messy with in my country (Germany)? Can i somehow filter by region? As much as i also love wammers from the US/UK i currently dont have the time/money to travel there.
So yea i hope this is the right place to post this: If you are a woman, live in Germany and want to get messy just send me a message!
Second question since i'am new here: Are there any tipps for my profile or maybe "unspoken rules" i should follow?
This is not a good website to find what you are looking for even though there is a personals section.
If that's really what you need then hire a professional.
Join and interact in local kink communities with the goal of making friends and learning not with the goal of finding someone to WAM with or try and put together a splunch in Germany when things are safe.
I suspect reaching out in that way will lead to more life fulfillment.
Thanks for your input i will definetly try your suggested way! I just thought it couldn't hurt to reach out on here since everyone on here is into wam and maybe just maybe there is someone searching just like me
and just to add to previous comments, at 24 years old (and at any age to some extent) you might have better luck attempting to convert the regular ladies you might otherwise meet? As long as i've been participating (umm... longer than you've been alive??) LTR that begin here are quite rare.
If you are having trouble with that, then finding dating advice, dating coaches, etc might be worth considering! (they don't teach this stuff in school, MANY guys struggle with this)
I have tried this once with my (now ex-)girlfriend a few years ago but she said she couldn't give me that. Currently i find it very difficult to meet anyone new really, because of this f*ckn pandemic So yea maybe a coach would be a good idea once this is hopefully over
Try Fetlife for finding groups of like minded people. You can also search online and on Fetlife and find kink clubs in your area that would be a great place to meet people.
Germany also has the highest concentration of dominatrices (sp?) that I've seen anywhere, and WAM/sploshing is a very fun and light hearted kink compared to most of the requests they get. It may be harder to get them to get messy themselves, although I'm sure some will be totally cool with it or do it if you pay them extra. I'm pretty sure most of them would be completely fine with getting you messy. I've personally done sessions with some dommes in Munich and Berlin who loved it. Several dommes from the UK, other European countries, and sometimes the US will also tour Europe and do sessions then. If you are reliable and establish rapport with them, some dommes may also give you a discount if you allow the sessions to be video taped so they can sell the clips (obviously this can vary a lot, though - don't go asking for discounts from everyone, especially not unless you've done a lot of sessions with them).
Send me a message on here or add me on Fetlife if you want some guidance on finding dommes near you.
Love you, too
So yea maybe a coach would be a good idea once this is hopefully over
