Note to UMD

Hey guys!

Thanks for taking a moment to read my post. I'd like to share a bit of my story, and maybe get some insight from the community.

I've been into sploshing for as long as I can remember. I used to have a decent collection of clips (many from this very site), and throughout my younger years, I'd actively looked for messy play partners in my area, in the hopes of maybe starting a clip store of my own.

For context (and to speak to my maturity level/self-awareness at the time), I made an account here just a few months after turning 18. I'd made a couple posts, mostly hoping I might make some connections.

My approach to finding what I was looking for wasn't a good one in hindsight. Being a young single guy, I decided that I wanted to find a romantic partner within the community that I'd be compatible with. But I didn't find one. I remained stubbornly single because in my mind, that was the key point of compatibility, and the women in my life didn't have it (remember, I was young and dumb. I know better now).

I was still determined though. Fortunately, I had a couple of lady friends who were willing to help me create a studio. They weren't necessarily into messy play, but were both excited about the idea of covering each other in various substances. We made some content, but I really didn't know what I was doing, and the end-result was a bit chaotic. To top it off, we clogged a hotel shower drain that we frantically had to unclog. That wasn't fun. Long-story short, none of it was really the quality it needed to be and the original footage is long gone now. It was just as well. That experience left me feeling a bit empty. The three of us had a lot of fun, but at the end of the day, I realized it was just me, alone in a hotel room, with a mess to clean. The feelings of fun and excitement from hours past, had turned into loneliness, as I remembered that I was still alone.

All of this created sort of a difficult situation for me. I found myself unable to enjoy messy content anymore. All I could think about was how I'd never be able to have those experiences, not at a professional level, least of all in the context of a relationship with someone I loved.

So I closed my UMD account. I separated myself from messy content. I lost a hard drive with a bunch of clips, and honestly, I just felt relieved. I couldn't bring myself to look back.

A decade and some change has passed then, and I've grown and changed dramatically over the years. I'm 29 now, and things are going pretty well. I bought a house with some land a few years ago, I've got a good job, and I'm a musician on the side. I've learned a lot from life. I've learned empathy - to be genuinely interested in the well-being of my fellow person as if we were all parts a single organism each dependent upon each other. I've learned to love people unconditionally, to want the best for them. I've learned how to "parent" myself to work through difficult stages of life, and to always be a friend, never a fighter.

I've also now had several genuinely meaningful romantic relationships in my lifetime, and each one has taught me something new, or has grown me in some way. I'm not "actively" looking at the moment, as I recently got out of a relationship, but I mention it because those experiences would've never happened if I hadn't learned that my capacity to experience life was only limited by my expectations of it. Once I removed those "expectations", I found that they were silly to begin with.

Okay, now that you've (hopefully) read my long-winded expository, here's why I'm here:

I've got ideas, resources, and my own place to make messy content. All I'm missing is someone to help me out - even if only to throw pies (their choice of fillings, ha) at me from off-camera, to be a set of dry hands, to get messy too if they'd like. I'm willing to travel a bit - within the continental US, but I'd really like to find someone semi-local to Oklahoma. I've thought about trying to do it all myself, but I'd really rather work with someone who's experienced and/or enthusiastic.

I'd really appreciate suggestions from the community on how I might get to where I'd like to be. I'll be 30 this year, and I've decided this will be my messiest decade yet! But I need your help.

I've included a few non-messy pics, including one with my youngest kitty cat, Luna. (She's a sweetie )

Thank you for listening. I love you all, and I hope you have a beautiful new year - surrounded by all the things you like and the people you love.

Here is a wam discord with other wammers mostly from umd you can this as well

Thank you for sharing your story

https://discord.gg/2CThJwRw

Romantically you do have to let things happen in their own time. You can't rush it, and sometimes it happens when you least expect it. As far as messy partners or helpers, I'm not local (I'm in TN), but if you ever dug a big mud pit on your land I would be willing to travel to be a helper with the mud- as long as you let me jump in at some point!

Oh wow, reading "but at the end of the day, I realized it was just me, alone in a hotel room, with a mess to clean" gets right to the heart of things and is where so many of us end up regardless of our particular fetish interest. For me, it is that long lonesome walk back from the quarry I'm at carrying that extra burden of awareness of the risk involved...

That is the essence of fetish activity, it is a solitary activity and when you are done, you are alone. Doing the same thing with a willing partner is not a fetish and when you are done, instead of being alone, you have a shared experience with your partner to enjoy in your memory...

Okay, I just wished 30 years magically deleted from my life and wondered if it's possible to alter a lifelong mud fetish to become sploshing instead.

You are...good-looking. And -- that cat!


I had to get over that too. The numbers just aren't with us. People without fetishes badly outnumber people who don't.

The vast majority of us are going to have significant others who aren't truly with us on our fetishes. I'm not saying it can't be done but it's statistically very, very difficult. In fact, I don't personally know anybody who married the fetish partner of their dreams.


It sounds to me like things are pretty good now.

In your shoes, I would get started with it. It's not that hard. I just went to modeling sites and also advertised on Craig's List -- and hired actresses. Always be upfront about what you're shooting and treat them well, and you should be okay.

I've been retired for awhile but you're looking in the right place. Surely there must be someone around here to help crew the shoots with you. Or a good friend. Learn what a modeling contract is, too.

Keep your romantic options open and keep dating. There are women who will be okay with this.

Nessie

Heya Nessie, thanks for taking the time to write!

I believe time is sort of relative. I'm 29 now, but the clock ticks along for us all and someday I'll have been here twice as long, then a bit longer. A lot can change in that time - the way we feel, the way we look, but our dreams transcend our years. You may not be able to wish away 30 years, but here we are - today existing at the same time, having a chat. Imagine that!

I haven't experienced mud play at all, but I'd be excited to try at some point. As popular as it is, I'm almost positive I'm missing out in a big way. Maybe once the weather gets a bit warmer, I'll find a way to make it happen! I'm nothing if not eager for new experiences.


Thank you! You're very kind to say so.


I'm aware of the numbers.. I try not to think about them. Doubt can be heavy, but I won't let it weigh me down. Hope is what keeps the dream alive. I'm choosing to be grateful for every day while believing that better days are coming - that someday there'll be no need for dreaming.


I've thought about going that route. I'm hoping to find someone who genuinely enjoys being messy. Someone who shares my passion for it, and wants to make content as much as I do. I've got the means to cover expenses, and I'll happily compensate anyone I work with for their time, either up-front, in royalties, or both, but if the compensation is their sole motivation - and they don't have any interest in getting messy independently of that, it just wouldn't feel the same to me.

Still, I'm optimistic that one day I'll find just the person I'm looking for - right about the time they find me, and that we'll work together to build a beautiful library of unique ideas for all to enjoy. We could start small, and if folks like what we do, then it'd be swell to branch out and network with other models who might be interested in making content with us. I know, that's all a long ways off, and there's lots for me to learn between here and there. I will take your suggestion and read up on the modeling contracts. If you have other wisdom to share, I would be more than grateful to accept it.



Thank you again for taking the time to write. I'm slowly getting back out into the dating world, but I'm not in any rush. There are a few women in my life who've shown a definite interest, and I know from past experience that the majority of them would likely be (at least) open to trying messy play.

While I'm not in a hurry to jump into a relationship, I do have high hopes that someday, when the time is right, and only when I'm ready - that I will find the right lady for me, and that we'll live in a beautiful little world of our creation - full of all the things we like, and all the people we love. I couldn't ask for much more than that.

I like to imagine that I won't see her coming - that one day, she'll pop up out of nowhere, smash a pie in my face, give me a big kiss and leap right into my arms haha. Well, I can dream anyways.

One's fetish object is usually chosen somewhat randomly though it may not seem so at the time as the actual predisposition may have occurred much earlier in childhood. But yes, yes, yes, if one has to end up with a fetish, wouldn't it be great if you got to choose the fetish object overtly and could switch it out if you wanted to later! Gosh, I'd certainly have picked something much more conventional and common and easier to find others into...

I've met a couple of couples with matching fetishes, lucky folks indeed. Yea, the odds are not good, but here's the thing about odds and meeting people...

Think about it, you walk into a bar. For some, the odds are like 1 in 2 or better that you'll meet someone to go home with that night. For most of us, the odds are less but no matter what the odds, say 1 in 10,000, that's still really cool. And the reason for that is, if you'll just keep trying, eventually your number will come up and you'll meet someone compatible...

So, never give up, you have to play the game to win!...

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