If you've seen me comment on this site you probably are aware that I have a massive kink for maxi dresses and for the dress and jean jacket combo.

Sometimes I try and wonder where my kink came from. I've noticed that it wasn't really apparently before I came across a video of a woman getting gunged wearing one and so I'm wondering if it springs from that. On the other hand, I can literally get off to a picture of a woman wearing one (like, a mirror outfit picture on Pinterest) without any sort of wet or messy aspect to it so maybe not!

My mom for literally as long as I can remember has never been the type to just casually wear a skirt or dress. Like she has 3 nicer dresses that she rotates out for graduations, weddings, funerals, etc.

I guess what I'm trying to say (or am wondering) is- would I have this kink, like physically get hard every time my girlfriend throws on a casual dress or a maxi dress for something, if my mom had been the type to wear a sundress to church or a maxi dress for my summer swim banquet or something?

This isn't me being like, I wish she had worn dresses more. Just me speculating.

I've often wished we could find a hypnotist who could work with uncovering significant events that occurred when we were too young to remember anything at all later about as adults.

I don't know where my triggers come from either. Easy reason why: I can't remember back that far.

It kind of sounds like it DIDN'T come from your mother if she wasn't the kind to wear the dresses that excite you today. Maybe if she did wear a maxidress often, it would have directed you elsewhere as it would be clothing associated with someone who could never seem sexual to you.

Or maybe not. Could be, you would have still liked to see that dress no matter who wore it.

Probable culprits: TV and movies. Lots of triggers there. Many many. Beautiful women in great outfits are everywhere.

Maybe somebody you were familiar with once but don't remember at all today wore something that you found very interesting. Or maybe you were out shopping with your mother and from your seat in the grocery cart, you saw a customer in the store who wore it and you couldn't forget it and thought about it all day.

An interest in casual dresses and maxidresses isn't something I see a lot of online. Most of the guys seem to like tight and mini and a lot of them hope for no clothing at all. We're kindred souls in that I'm attracted to white satin and princess-wear.

I blame the princess thing on Barbie.

Nessie

Your third paragraph is what I'm kind of getting at.

Like, if she had worn maxi dresses (or casual dresses) often, would I be into them nowadays?

I have memories of her wearing long dresses to church, but I think it may have been while she was pregnant with my brother. She also had this one long floral dress she wore for Easter every year (not a maxi dress this was like 2005) until in classic child-without-filter fashion I asked her not to wear it anymore.

I've always wondered if it might be because of puberty. I was in the middle of it in 2012-15 when they were at peak popularity, and as a result they turn me on.

I'm very much so into casual dresses lol. Like I find the t shirt dress and denim jacket combo to be incredibly attractive.

Ahh...puberty can be one hot mess. And the timing with your mother's clothes is correct.

I think I'd go with that explanation too. For myself, long hair on boys was highly popular when I had puberty and to this day I have a prejudice in favor of it. Short hair on guys can look great, but it's just not...as hot, somehow, as when the hair is brushing their shoulders.

This never reached the level of a fetish for me, though. It's just that, here and there, a guy has let it grow out for some reason and I suddenly think, "Wow, I never paid any attention but now he's kind of hot."

Nessie

Fr.

I think it's probably a mixture of the two. Being that I never really noticed them before that video. Like I had a friend of whose house I spent almost every day during the summer of 2013 at, and his mom wore them almost every day and was not bad looking at all and I never noticed them.

There's a theory of sexual development that says in males this is a common route of developing fetishes.

It was unusual stimuli, and your pre-development body just happen to get hard while you looked at it, and that created the connect. Later in life, the association of the stimulus and the erection turned into a kink.