I am 55 and very comfortable within myself about who I am. So why should it be that I still don't feel comfortable saying I would rather get sploshy than have vanilla sex. I mean vanilla people aren't exactly backwards on coming forwards about what they like so why shouldn't we be? That doesn't seem very fair to me? I know I don't post my but this little community messy wam lovers is always so kind and welcoming it's such a lovely little space.