I am a hetro male who loves to crossdress and get messy (Also like getting messy as a male). I prefer fully clothed WAM but I am quite happy to rip off my clothes once messy. My wife knows what I do but doesn't indulge.
If that fits your description (or nearly) I would love to chat and compare notes on our experiences. For more information have a look here http://www.wtanmse.co.uk/history.html and you will also find contact details on the website or just send me a message on here.
Thanks for reading.