While on a long drive home this afternoon, I found myself dwelling on my wam fetish which has been a secret of mine since childhood. It dawned on me that there has probably not been a week in the last twenty years where I didn't visit these forums. Over those years, the only ones who knew about my fetish were girlfriends and spouses - with the exception of my first girlfriend, I have been able to easily bring my fondness for gunge and pies up with any of my sexual partners and only one time has this backfired - the person in question immediately shared this information with her friend, who it turned out had also facilitated another man's gunge fetish.

Anyway, even though I was able to tell these women while in relationships with them, the thought of admitting this openly in conversation to anyone else, friends, family or even strangers; has always been unthinkable to me. But today I found myself asking why...

I do not want to trivialise this at all, publicly admitting I am sexually aroused by the sight of women being gunged, must be the equivalent of a gay person 'coming out' - and if that's a fair assessment then I have never previously appreciated how much courage that act requires.

And then it got me thinking - well okay, what IF the world knew. What does it matter? Why AM I ashamed. Why am I considering this as a possible course of action - What would doing this achieve. What are the pros, more importantly, what are the cons??

Here's the big question.... should I bring this up with my therapist?

I say this generally, and not to anyone specific..

Every detail of someone's life doesn't need to be revealed. A little mystery is nice sometimes.

Yes, this absolutely sounds like something worth bringing up with your therapist. Therapy is one of the few spaces you can have open, judgment-free exploration of things that feel vulnerable or confusing. If you're already asking yourself why you feel shame, what "coming out" would mean, and what the pros and cons might be, that's exactly the kind of material therapy is meant for.

At the same time, I don't think there's any obligation to make a public declaration about your sexual interests. Most people don't openly discuss their fantasies or kinks with friends, family, coworkers, or casual acquaintances. That kind of information is usually reserved for partners. Nobody outside of my wife or users here knows about my kinks. That doesn't automatically mean I'm ashamed; I just value boundaries.

You've already shown that you can communicate about this with partners when it matters, which is really the key piece. Beyond that, disclosure is a personal choice, not a moral requirement.

So talk to your therapist if it's on your mind, but don't feel pressured to turn this into some grand public revelation,