My girlfriend and I recently got engaged after dating for 2.5 years. I feel guilty hiding anything from her and I'd like to tell her before she stumbles upon it.

I'm very apprehensive about it because she is the type of girl who doesn't like getting sweaty during outdoor activities, being dirty, hates bugs etc. For example, camping would be the WORST possible way for her to spend a weekend. We have a wonderful, loving relationship, but she hasn't expressed interest in sexual adventures, even when I've asked. Pair that with my long-held desire to not divulge my 'dirty secret' and, well, here we are. I read a few other posts on the topic and, by the sound of it, I should ease her into my interest but this is unfortunately a conversation I should have had a while ago

For context I'm a huge mud fan but I have never spoken to anyone about it before joining this site. I've enjoyed being muddy since I was a little kid, but it only turned sexual when I hit puberty. I'm guessing others can relate, but again, I've literally never talked to anyone about it. I didn't even realize there were enough people into this stuff to support an internet forum until recently! The food and gunge variety gets my heart rate up a bit, but it is definitely second string to muddy stuff

Anyway, I have no expectation for her to assist or indulge my kink, and I would only involve her if she was truly interested. So does anyone have any guidance on how to breach the topic or how to handle things if she doesn't take it well? Is anyone willing to share a similar 'coming out' experience within the bounds of a committed relationship?

Hello,

My husband has just told me about his wetlook/wam we got married this year, I was surprised and at first a little upset that he had not told me sooner (these where my first emotions) I am very open and willing to try anything once - I have enjoyed it and have found a whole new world has opened up to me.

If your fiance doesn't like mess or anything like that, make it clear that you wouldn't expect her to join in. I would sit her down when you have the time to talk about it with no interruptions. Explain that you are nervous about telling her and that you don't expect her to join in, but want to tell her. Give her time to react and answer questions that she asks.

The tricky thing is that you do not know how she will react but you can only try your best.

Lilly xx