Being into a 'messy fetish' can seem so embarrassing to people they imagine the absolute worst treatment from people who end up finding out their dirty secret. Just remember, pretty much everyone who sees somebody get hit with a pie laughs, or says it looks gross, or just looks and seems to ignore it. Being into gunging is pretty safe. The 'risk' is to a persons ego. Not their physical self. Nobody is going to turn around and to take your life just because they found out you wanna get pied.. or whatever your variation is. All the shame and guilt related to these activities comes from social shame, eat your food don't waste it. Keep clean. Dont mess up yo clothes or your Sunday shoes or whatever. Social conventions that are taboo to violate and yet also practically harmless to violate as long as you still act like breaking them is a festive and temporary act. Which is why getting messy is all over cultures just not quite as openly celebrated as it is on umd. There are hundreds of messy elements spread through the cultures of the world throughout history. Humans have kept getting messy as semi taboo to preserve that it's fun to allow yourself to deny those social pressures and break the taboo with a messy act of some kind. Tomato throwing festival. Color festival in India (holi) certain 19th century whaling ship activities only the looser of drawn lots or the new guy does. The Shellback (navy or mil will know what this is) messy parts of life have simply been part of life for so long, and if you can stay calm and keep things fun then the opportunities to be messy in front of others is there. Safe for everything but your pride.
We are all truely safe here. As much safety as an unsafe world can provide. So many, and I include myself, have been paralyzed by fear simply by having a profile on umd. Terrified somebody from your regular life might end up seeing you. But is that at all a reasonable fear?

There might be a one in a billion chance somebody you know sees you covered in slop, but just ask yourself how would that be? Really? Somebody at work sees your pics on umd since you dident black out your face like a classified CIA picture... so then somebody you know knows you do this. Beleive me it's not the end of the world. And instead of being so caught in a reflexive 'hand in the cookie jar/deer in the headlights' feeling from childhood, ask yourself for once 'if somebody notices my face on this website doesn't that mean I know someone in my everyday life who's also using umd a lot? In that case there would likely be less public humiliation and a lot more private messy sessions with your new friend. I mean really. We can all get so damn terrified of people finding out, it's foolish. And there's nothing to be guilty about. People who do actual horrible things actually don't even feel guilt in many cases. To live in shame simply because you like some silly strange weird shit. Nobody should be ashamed of themself if they aren't hurting others with what they do. I always thought this is why public pie is cathartic because hiding sucks and if you feel like you shouldn't have to hide, it feels really wrong to live that way.
I mentioned physical safety versus the safety of the ego. And that is a very important distinction to make to yourself. I don't know a single incident of a person being killed or tortured for being messy. But some of the UmD users you scroll past all the time do face this risk. Not from
Being messy but by being an 'other'. Trans people are murdered for who they are. Often by friends, housemates, exs or even their own family. Murdered and tortured for who they are, as a vile expression of their attackers own insecurities.
I read about a girl who was killed and tortured today. (mtf) 17 years old. Her murders are also her room mates. Two women and one man. I honestly couldent even imagine who is more vile. The insecure man who has to attack a girls face and privates with a knife, or the two women who couldent see this violence as just another expression of male hate towards Feminity
A few notes..
Non binary
Yes I have studied phychology
Been to war
Trans females are female
Trans males are male
Yes I am writing this late and angry because of reading a news article
It's not about me, or showing i care or any bullshit like that. I wrote this because I read this article and it made me so mad. Rest In Peace Ally Lee Steinfeld
https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/three-charged-gruesome-death-transgender-missouri-teen-n805146