It's the little things that I want in my pie-in-the-face part of my life that have meaning that far outweigh and outsize the apparent depth of the activity.

Which is pseudo-intellectual nerd-speak for "here's what I really want" !

With her, whomever she is out there, I want to...


Watch pie-in-the-face kink videos together, and compare favorites and notes,

Order supplies together, online, ooh-ing and ah-ing over the ideas and choices we make. Preferably with your arms wrapped around my shoulders as we peruse the on-line messy goods together,

Share pics and videos we find with each other, instead of hiding it out of rejection,

Encouraging each other to find & share things we each really like, with each other,

Communicating what we want, and how we want it, and then making sure it happens. Building and building on the sexual, sensual and kinky chemistry,

Long conversations and emails about how we got into it, what turns us on, what we'd like to try, what our limits are, what impossible things we'd love to try,

Sharing our "secret" with each other, with abandon!,

Coming up with new recipes and experiments to try out with each other,

We "share the driving"; we both bring ideas, plans to this, and are equal partners.


To share this "secret pied-face life" with each other to the fullest, with mutual and complete acceptance and equal-partnership, is the gold-ring, at least to me.

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