I see a number of posts on the Messy Forum asking about people introduce their partner to Wam, how they even begin to breach the subject. Most of the advice is solid and I can't really fault them but I would like to add my personal twist.

I can totally appreciate the difficulty in talking about something that has been kept secret for so long but the truth is that if you enjoy it, which you no doubt do, then why are you afraid to share it with the ones that you love? There's no shame or ridicule. Your Kink is OK (YKOK) as the saying goes in the fetish community.

And if all else fails, just do it. At the worse you get arrested for assault with a cream pie, at best you find out your partner is a closet splosher. But chances are you'll fall in the middle somewhere and that's not a bad place to be.

Let me tell you about one of my partners, who I shall call G. We had been seeing each other for a few months and she was a fun person to be around and things we going well. We were going to have a shower together and I told her to go first and I'll join her in a moment, little did she know that I had a surprise in store.

The next thing she saw was my head popping up over the top of the shower cubicle, the words, "I'm sorry about this", followed by a deluge of melted Neapolitan ice-cream.

There was no discussion about it beforehand, she had no idea what I was into but I believe that I could read her enough to know that she wouldn't be offended and might actually enjoy it. And I was right.

So what I'm saying to all those still keeping their messy secret: what's the worst that could happen?