But is it really a compliment?By MandarPosted 4/26/16 486 views
I love chatting with people on here, off here, pretty much anywhere. I am a SUPER social person and have no issue admitting that I am an attention whore.
I get messages from people that I can only assume are ment to be a compliment. 'You're so pretty/love your pictures, but you look better without the clown make-up'. I really just laugh it off and go about life. I really only get that comment on UMD.
I have never gotten 'You're so pretty, but you look better IN the clown make up'. I have been wondering why it seems to be ok to be pretty except for blank blank blank. Do the clown folks get that in or out of clownin, it's still me. Do they appreciate more that it is 2 sides of the same coin?
I get if clowning isn't your thing. It's the whole your kink isn't my kink and that's ok thing. If you don't like them and you aren't into them, I have absolutely no intention of making you into a clown (I mean I totally will if it's part of a prenegotiated scene and that IS what you actually want). I also am not forcing you to look at my pictures or profile. I look at tons of pictures of kinks that aren't mine, I like to look at them, admire or appreciate everything that went into making that moment possible for the person. If it's something I think is awesome I will definitely leave a comment or send the person a message of how fantastic I think whatever they are doing is. I cannot recall a time that I have ever sent a message of "Wow, *you're so pretty/awesome/epic/love your pictures* except for *whatever kink/fetish they are displaying and is the main focal point of the picture*'.
If you precursor a negative/insult with something postive/a compliment... It's still negative/an insult. For me that ranks up there with 'You'd be so pretty if you lost a few pounds'.
Clown make-up or not. That is still me. That is my face, my body, my time, my interests, my passion.
End ranty random thought time.
MandarRAWR

Zoidberg Reborn:5/11/16
It is safe to take the default position: "innocent until proven guilty". i.e. I am sure 99.99% of people saying that mean it as a compliment. However, that does NOT mean you do not have the right to get annoyed hearing the same damned (stupid) thing N number of times, for some large value of N.
By analogy, I get really REALLY sick and enraged by every stupid old person - and even a young person today - asking if the weather is the reason for my (extreme) aches and pains. I know all their intentions are good. But, that still doesn't change the fact that their comments are unoriginal, tiresome, and downright WRONG.
According to them, NOBODY dies of cancer or car crashes or falls or heart attacks or strokes. According to them, EVERYbody dies of "the weather". I was surprised, especially, when the one aforementioned young person made that remark to me today about the weather, since she works at the pharmacy where I buy the drugs specifically to COMBAT the disease (rheumatoid arthritis) that causes my aches and pains.
I completely sympathize with women being annoyed with 1000 men constantly hitting on them. That is NOT to say that any 1 of those men is causing 1000X as much harrassment as being asked out, nor that any 1 of them should be punished proportionally to the accumulated effects of 1000 hits.
The algorithm I choose for a response is: sarcasm.