Something I say a lot is that joy is hot, especially in a wam context, so I thought I'd try talk more about my thoughts on that.

I don't enjoy humiliation or degradation. Seeing someone upset or uncomfortable is a massive turn off for me, I can't connect with myself and my sexuality whilst that's happening.

So why do I love pies then? Surely the purpose is to humiliate someone with them?

Well... no. For me, it's fun, and that's what I love. People playing together, being silly, and most importantly doing so with the express knowledge that it's turning each other on.

I love getting a pie to the face. I don't know why, I just know I love the physical sensation, the taste, the way it looks. I love the anticipation that builds from creating the pies, from seeing them laid out, knowing exactly what's going to happen. I find it so exciting and arousing. There's an element of teasing, of playing, and then the moment it's coming towards your face with nothing to stop it. It's hard not to giggle, to feel the joy - and so to feel turned on.

Same watching other people get messy. I love how sensual it can look, dripping down their bodies, rubbing it in. I love watching the anticipation, and the uncontrollable laughter. It makes me desperate to join them, to feel the joy together.

Joy is hot. Joy is sexy. And I truly love the joy that comes from getting messy.