Hi folks,

I'm new to this site and forum. I've had a messy fetish since I was a kid but always thought it was weird so haven't mentioned it to anyone. I'm 37 now. Last week I decided to try it out by having a session with a properly brilliant splasher. And I loved it. I want more!!! I'm married, wife doesn't know. I find the thought of having my own messy little secret that I can act on without shame.

Would love some advice and build a network. I love humiliation. I'm more interested in the mess than stuff that's massively sexual. I'd love to find like-minded people, maybe find a local bunch in the North West of England and properly plug into the messy scene.

Would love to hear from anyone with recommendations.

Welcome to the site Travis! So glad you found us here I'm sure you'll find plenty of messy friends. I think someone here arranges "splunches" in the UK for all the sploshers, it might be in the personals forum

Welcome to UMD.

You will find lots here to enjoy.

You will find that you are no more weird than any of the rest of us.

Hello
Great that you joined us. I also once thought that my messy fetish was weird, but thanks to the UMD community I changed my mind.

Dirty is beautiful.

You're definitely in the right place! Contrary to what many of the ads you'll see on the site would have you believe, there's a whole spectrum of preferences on the fetish, some fully clothed, some fully nude, some sexual, some slapstick, and so on. Personally, I've never leaned towards the overtly sexual side of the fetish either!

Also, having a fetish is a perfectly normal thing and part of what makes you who you are. There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about and as far as fetishes go, it's definitely on the tamer end of things! One of the nice things about being on the UMD is being exposed to a variety of people who truly own the fetish and are both accepting and proud of it. I've definitely become more comfortable with my sexuality over time by being here.