Just curious about this so I want to ask people about how they feel when getting messy. Is it a huge sexual turn on or is it just for fun? I get the feeling the majority will answer that it's a turn on but would like to know if some of you genuinely just enjoy getting messy without getting turned on.
For me the turn-on isn't getting messy, but the thrill of the game resulting in someone getting messy or naked or whatever the forfeit happens to be. It's not just games with messy forfeits that are the turn on for me, but any kind of forfeit scenario. The risk of losing and being humiliated, the chance of winning and humiliating someone else.
Here's the thing. People are going to like it for various reasons. There's no one "correct" answer because it's going to be different for each individual. Now if you ask the question at a venue like this, your answers are going to skew more heavily to the kink side because that's the primary clientele this site caters to. But keep in mind just because that's going to be the mindset of "UMD Forum users", that's not going to be representative of the public-at-large.
helloboi1134 said:Most people actually do have a problem with non-sexual mess now. You might be surprised. Most young people I know have never had a messy experience as a kid. Ever. It's just forbidden with life in the city, no yard, constant supervision, and expensive clothes.
There's something actually really innocent and childlike about this, because it's a normal instinct, and it's become a fixation. But in and of itself, this is not weird. We've made it weird. I thought it would be fun to be messy before I had any sort of sexual response to it or anything.
If often wonderd if not being allowed to be messy fetishized gungy fun for us guys. To be honest I don't think it was ever expressly banned and I know I got muddy like any normal kid. If I'm completely honest I remember being intensely excited and embarrassed by seeing gunging on tv long before I had the sexual maturity to know what those feeling were....I loved it but couldn't say so and didn't know why. Lots of shame! Even wrote to FHM problem page (claiming to be older than I was) asking if I was a pervert. So yeah...have had sessions that have been just silly fun without ...but I'd be lying if I said that the gunge didn't turn me on a bit!
I'm not sure it matters either way, in many respects. As some others have states, things can be planned to be horny and then fall flat on their face for some reason or other. And people who do it for sexual kicks don't all get the same kick - some like the feel while others get off on the embarrassment of being covered in baked beans or whatever. But I'm sure many also get a kick from doing something they know, as adults, is something they should no longer get fun from - according to society. Food fights are fine when you're twelve, but at thirty society doesn't quite understand. You're meant to be serious by that point, have a mortgage, be working all day and not covering yourself in custard. There's a thrill of doing something you shouldn't!
It's always been a sexual turn on for me. As a teenager when I'd masturbate, my fantasies almost always revolved around being in a huge messy pie fight with several other guys and every single time it ended with a huge orgy. Even to this day although I do look at porn sites, my most common fantasy is still that major pie fight, only this time with the porn actors I like.
I think I appreciate both aspects. What started out as something I found fun* developed into - or revealed itself as - something I found very erotic. Sometimes I can experience both the fun side and the erotic side when I indulge in gunge (so far, only solo - I've yet to experience it with another). After all, both of these are still forms of pleasure.
What I have found most interesting, though, have been the times that I've managed to humiliate myself, and haven't really 'enjoyed' the experience, so to speak. But that is a turn on in itself, of course.
It's been interesting reading the responses here. A mixed bag of "erotic" and "just for fun" wammers here. I'm very much in the category "just for fun", although I completely understand the erotic side of it. Me and my partner have never done anything "wam-ish" together, but he does know about my interest in it. You never know. maybe one day we might explore "that" side of it
goinsteady said: I think I appreciate both aspects. What started out as something I found fun* developed into - or revealed itself as - something I found very erotic. Sometimes I can experience both the fun side and the erotic side when I indulge in gunge (so far, only solo - I've yet to experience it with another). After all, both of these are still forms of pleasure.
What I have found most interesting, though, have been the times that I've managed to humiliate myself, and haven't really 'enjoyed' the experience, so to speak. But that is a turn on in itself, of course.
Yes, but it's sometimes difficult to humiliate yourself when you're on your own or not being watched on cam etc. If you're doing it on skype with some other guy watching (or laughing!) I think it can become more "enjoyable" so to speak!
Love you, too
VIP Coupons