I finally decided to explore my lifelong fantasy of being pied or messed up with a dominant master. I'm only interested in this as in a submissive role. All i get are replies asking me what i want to roll around in with them and telling me their reciprocal wam experiences which is not what i'm looking for. I don't want to choose or have any say in it. That kills the submissive fantasy. It seems like there are very few men who like wam as a humiliation tool. I've had plenty of doms over the years and figured eventually one of them will want to do something to me but so far nothing! Ladies have any of you had this problem?

I don't see too many people who actually post their own pics up here. My point was to start a conversation and seek some feedback.

I love the humiliation side of WAM. The nastier the better quite frankly. I'm not really interested in getting messy myself, just inflicting as much horribly nasty destruction as possible :devil:

Drop me a line if you'd like to chat sometime.

Melanie, you already *know* what I'd like to do to you! You would be SO humiliated!

It's good to see a new post from you! :lovestruck:

Norman

Various people on here like to rp. And there's a wide spectrum on the BDSM aspect they do. I'm a switch myself and change up my role depending on my partner.

If you mean real life I can't help you any though.

JK; we get the message, but maybe the OP doesn't want the world to see them and will do it after chatting and building up the trust. This won't be achieved by badgering them for a photo. If you want to know, PM them and chat!

That said, a generalised location (country) might be good so people know if they can even arrange a meet up.

AKA; , I am ok with chatting if you want, I too have no picture due to my job, people finding out would be...bad. Personally I am a switch in a poly relationship so that normally weirds people out enough

A good place to try would be fet-life as preferences and locations are shown.

Good luck.

Am I the only one who finds this persistent attempt to get pics from her kind of creepy and weird?

Thank you Siversea and secretlife! We all come from different walks of life and for some of us, not posting our pics is a matter of respect for our family, jobs etc.

Also note that JK doesn't have a pic posted!

Sploshing is just perfect for a bit of goomiliation and embarrassment. Bring it on

Any girls wanting to be dommed just come over to London in the uk and I will be happy to make that happen! You will be tied helpless and covered in more mess than you can imagine.

Only 1 person thought you were begging for a pic, not all.

We understand exactly what you were getting at as we can read, you just didn't need to say it 3 times. Once is enough, also common sense.

I'm always up for role playing with any females interested in complete and utter humiliation :devil: My Yahoo IM and more info about my interests can be found on my profile for anyone who's interested.

Lot of good points raised here. You don't need a pic to be a great wammer on here...but I'm not going to deny that it does help some on here to make you seem more real.

But, my biggest thing is, if I'm going to roleplay or humiliatingly mess you, I do want to know something about you first. You don't have to give every detail, but just a little bit always helps...but maybe I'm crazy. That being said, AKA, as a former New Englander, would love to chat sometime.

I am a dominant with a submissive and I know just what you mean, from the other side of the equation. The handing over of power can be joyful, though I must admit it has taken me more than a little effort and time to get used to the idea of not asking permission, of giving my submissive what she wants by not giving her what she wants. It's a difficult balancing act, finding out what is permissible while trying to keep complete control.

I've been brought up to be a gentleman which, at least part of the time, means deferring to a lady's wishes. Being a dominant in a D/s relationship can be quite a change from this, in that it is still necessary to find out what a submissive's limits and goals are, but once you know what those are the rules and expectations become very different.

Based on this I suspect it's possible that the men you've found to be wanting to give you what you want, rather than what they want, may just be a little inexperienced in D/s relations. Given time and pointers you may find they can make their way closer to what you seek or you could try something like www.fetlife.com which, while WAM is fairly low key on there, does have a goodly number of experienced Doms and tops.

Good luck in finding what you seek and if I may be of any help, please drop me a line.

BTS

It's so great to hear what everyone has to say!

Just to clarify, I thought I was posting in a forum for discussion. My intention wasn't to try to hook up with someone here or I would have posted in classifieds. There aren't enough of you from my neck of the woods on this site. I was simply venting my frustration with posting in other places, being totally clear and specific and then getting bombarded by messages from people who just don't get it.

I can definitely understand your frustration with all the "junk mail" replies. Finding exactly what you're looking for is difficult enough. Hopefully, you eventually do.

I wish you the best of luck on that.

Pretty much this. I get to handcuff or tie her (my pie-girl) to a chair naked, and then do Whatever. I. Want. (tm) with the gabillion-or-so pies I've prepared. "411" is for more information, and "911" is "egermency!, egermency!, please to stop for a moment!", but otherwise the banter & teasing and the pelting-with-the-pies continues.

And, even after this is communicated, they don't arrange to 'let you have it'?

Akahotmess, I'm sorry that you feel there aren't any dominant men out there who like "WAM as humiliation" and will (within consensual bounds) have their wicked way with you :devil:

I would just like to reassure you that those men do exist... As I'm one of them sadly I live in London, England otherwise I'd definitely be interested in helping you with your problem :devil:

If you think that men who like to have a helpless female bound & at their mercy to gunge & humiliate as they see fit don't exist just look at the number of threads where people discuss what are the best videos of that nature to watch (trust me there are a lot... I frequently post in them). Why don't you take a look at some of those threads & then see if there are any posters whose opinions on how they want to see a girl gunged take your fancy... Then look at their location, and if you think there's a chance try sending them a PM... Clearly I can only speak for myself, but If a girl PM'd me saying that she'd like me to try on her for real something I'd posted when discussing what I liked in the perfect WAM video I'd be flattered, and I would definitely be up for taking things further (I.e. getting to know her via PM, then possibly IRL if it went well).

Just think, due to he number of high-profile incidents when new female members of UMD have been put off by unwanted attention from unscrupulous /idiotic male members, many men, particularly those who might give you what you seek may be worried about approaching you or fear of getting in trouble for making unwanted advances...

I hope that this helps reassure you, and I wish you luck in finding your "unicorn"...

And because this thread clearly needs some pictures... these are some from one of my favourite "Torture WAM" videos ("Lorna's Schoolgirl Bondage Humiliation" by HotWamHD)... I would LOVE to have a girl at my mercy like this :devil:

I'm a straight male,been with my partner 12 fantastic years. When it come to humiliation being submissive with WAM god knows who taught her but she can seriously dish out the punishment.
Over the years I've lost count how many nice clothes she has ruined. I've had chocolate poured on me in a restaurant because she thought it would be funny. Been tied to various chairs,posts and trees, had my clothes messed and ripped. She doesn't care who sees me in that state. She has made me wear satin knickers to work and when I walk through the front door I get nailed. I receive her punishment whenever and wherever she feels like giving it. I've had countless food,mud,paint,water all over me, if there's nothing wet or messy at hand then ripping and cutting begins... just imagine what it's like one minute having a nice chat and drink with friends and the next minute your practically naked and covered in mess.... and if I ever said no...she is so delicate and asks nicely to let her have some fun....so being a gentleman. .I let her do as she like... Her friends have laughed along with her,throwing the cake at me saying something like...now you'll put your glasses away ..type of comment.
My point is... if you take the time to really discover what makes each other tick the boundaries come down and pleasure remains...
If you want something to happen. Find the right person. Be precise...and let the magic begin..

Does anyone else find it ironic that the only person here asking for photos is the only other user that doesn't have a photo himself?

The humiliation part of WAM is fairly sexy, not gonna lie. I'd be willing to do something reciprocal with a gal as a compromise, but to tie a lady up, wreck her clothes, and pie her something fierce? That's hot.

I don't think she was trying to elicit offers. We can all be relatively sure that she's already gotten inundated with enough of those from creepers on this forum already by going "Hi, I'm a girl."

I would be so humiliated to have that happen to me in public!

And I am so turned on right now, thinking about that happening to me! :devil:

Norman

Hi Norman.
How's this for an experience. ..last birthday we were out for a meal. Nothing fancy or expensive. .just an American style diner...we were chatting away with the odd reference to WAM in general. Meal finished time to go, got to the car in the car park,which being a Saturday luchtime was quite busy. Oddly she went to the boot and asked me to come round,so I did... only to receive two very large pies to the head n face and two cartons of custard, one over the head and the other down the inside of my jeans. All this was done in full view of the restaurant staff and customers. I did see briefly two waitresses chuckling at me...looking on in disbelief. To make it even worse...I had to stand there covered in custard n pie while she covered the seat to drive home. Two cars of other customers came past use...one woman praised my partner with the comment....good on you girl. .you nailed him good style.
When I did get home. I had to round the back of the house...wait to be hosed down and strip off before being allowed inside.

We all apologize for Jaykain being creepy.

Do I have well understood? There is another lady willing to be tied up, gagged and destroyed with tons of mess??

not only...best would be having her nude, tied up tight and well gagged.... :devil:

...and forget to apply nipple clamps on her breasts....

Another totally humiliating experience in public! Your lady has this down pat!

Awesome! Great for you!

Norman

I have no idea why it is not more popular, but that is EXACTLY the kind of scenario I am most interested in. Mess, humiliation, and light to moderate torture for my sub while I stay nice and clean and dry.